english women leaving there husbands

bogeyman


Joined: 04/06/2009
Posts: 175

Message Posted:
04/06/2009 15:18

just started coming over and cant believe how many couples have split up over turkish men. couples who have come over here to start a new life and bussiness. then the woman falls for a turkish man usually much younger i mean a lot younger. cant they see its only for the money or passport. from what women i have seen it cant be for there looks.

fire starter


Joined: 19/06/2008
Posts: 3401

Message Posted:
04/06/2009 15:24

our retired friend widower came back to live here.

he met and very quickly married a lot younger turkish lady and moved to turkey.

so i think it can work both ways.

they appear to be very happy, but we were unsure of her at first.

TRNCVaughan


Joined: 27/04/2008
Posts: 4578

Message Posted:
04/06/2009 15:47

I wish I could get mine to leave me.....

Trudy


Joined: 25/05/2009
Posts: 369

Message Posted:
04/06/2009 15:50

Haha, thats terrible!!!!!!!

chinaeyes


Joined: 13/02/2009
Posts: 425

Message Posted:
04/06/2009 16:04

If it makes them a happy bunch,then good luck to them.I know for sure they are many hundreds of very lonely people over here,most will keep this to themselves and just get on with life.Not all of us can go out and have fun all of the time but to those who can, make the most of it,you might not wake up tomorrow.I woke up today to blue sky,sunrise and a very loving husband.What more could i want

stellasstar1



Joined: 02/07/2008
Posts: 1519

Message Posted:
04/06/2009 16:23

To Bogeyman, Yes I guess the name does suit you coming out with comments like yours. Are you jealous to make remarks like that. Suddenly thrown together 24 hours a day can highlight problems in a relationship in any town or any country. You are being very cruel to the women who are in happy relationships with either Turkish or Cypriot ment, and there are many that I know that have been together for a long time and are very happy, without the mention of getting a passport or money. My partner is a Cypriot, been together 2 1/2 years. He was originally ffrom the South, so has an EU passport, is an Australian Citizen, so has an Australian passport and of course also has his North Cypriot ID card. So he has more than me. He does not take money from me as he works, his large family treat me as one of the family. Not by taking money from me, but but being generous with their time, their love and their friendship. There are rotten people everywhere, try looking for the good not the bad

dav88



Joined: 01/08/2008
Posts: 605

Message Posted:
04/06/2009 16:25

Of course not everyone is the same but I have seen an awful lot of british women with young turkish men - mostly waiters. And most of them do use these women I have even seen some with actual girlfriends that they keep a secret and they have an affair with these ladies for their money and passports.... shame on them but as I said not everyone is the same so hope some of them do actually do it for love! but then again how can anyone fall in love within a day and decide to move to the UK!!!!

elko2



Joined: 24/07/2007
Posts: 4400

Message Posted:
04/06/2009 16:25

Vaughan,

Behave yourself or you will be in the dog house tonight!!!



I think men like to brag about such things and the dangerous women are the quieter ones, the sort you would never expect. "A dog that barks never bites" is a popular Turkish saying. So Vaughan I can vouch for you as the safe one

ismet

No1Doyen


Joined: 04/07/2008
Posts: 16617

Message Posted:
04/06/2009 16:25

Stella, did you split from your Husband whilst in the trnc?

No1Doyen


Joined: 04/07/2008
Posts: 16617

Message Posted:
04/06/2009 16:27

Ismet, that's a good saying.

britvic



Joined: 05/09/2008
Posts: 3039

Message Posted:
04/06/2009 16:35

Strange first post?.....................But hey! welcome to the forum Evette.



Vicki

negativenick


Joined: 10/11/2008
Posts: 6023

Message Posted:
04/06/2009 18:20

Garry Monger prays about 4 dozen times a day that his missus would leave him for a younger Turkish bloke...

daisy dukes


Joined: 06/09/2008
Posts: 3815

Message Posted:
04/06/2009 19:07

Negativenick...just out of curiosity, is Gary Monger a real bloke, and if he is, is his wife real? I love your postings about this (perhaps ficticious) bloke and his wife, so don't stop, but i had to ask, as i'm sure many others are quite interested to know



DD

Sunnycee


Joined: 18/05/2009
Posts: 192

Message Posted:
04/06/2009 19:10

Hi Daisy!

You beat me to it - I was going to ask the same thing

sc

Lilli



Joined: 21/07/2008
Posts: 13081

Message Posted:
04/06/2009 19:13

have seen it several times here but I have also seen older women come looking for a bit of fun with turkish men. Its not just here it goes on everywhere. Read any of the heartbreak stories about this situation where woman have gone to countries fallen in love, brought the man back only to be left emotionally befret and some times pennilesss. It works both ways. I have also seen a few happy marriages between turkish british partners.

ilovekibris


Joined: 18/05/2009
Posts: 394

Message Posted:
04/06/2009 19:17

chinaeyes wrote: " many hundreds of very lonely people over here"



Where DO they all come from...?

Littlenige



Joined: 24/12/2006
Posts: 3594

Message Posted:
04/06/2009 19:18

ilovekibris Their toes ??

HappyBoots


Joined: 28/05/2009
Posts: 74

Message Posted:
04/06/2009 21:00

I know a woman who left a very abusive Turkish Cypriot husband and later met an older English man here in Cyprus - she appears to be very happy. I think relationships end and begin all the time regardless of the nationalities of the people involved.

Middle Easter


Joined: 13/06/2007
Posts: 146

Message Posted:
04/06/2009 21:15

It's the Shirley Valentine syndrome!!!!



Hey guys, no matter how much it hurts, wave bye bye to the shallow better half & offer to make her 'a few sandwiches for the journey' when she breaks the news to you....but never, never have her back. You will recover, believe me I know from experience, but she will always remain a fool!

Lilli



Joined: 21/07/2008
Posts: 13081

Message Posted:
04/06/2009 21:35

Oh middle Easter you must have had a bad experience. Are you ok now xxxx

bugsy


Joined: 16/05/2009
Posts: 114

Message Posted:
04/06/2009 21:40

hey there you men you have been leaving your older wives for younger women for years thai birds etc so now when we do it its not right now our turn and if it all turns out wrong weve had a good time on the way

Coachie



Joined: 29/07/2008
Posts: 2135

Message Posted:
05/06/2009 00:16

Bugsy..But when it all goes pear shaped most of you run back to the fella pleading to be taken back etc etc. cos you have nothing,and are penniless.See it every day in the papers....A friend of ours had a love affair with Turkish waiter,married him,brought hom over here to UK at great personal expense,borrowed money to start a Turkish restrauant.He worked for 6months,did not like the hard work involved,and did a runner back to Turkey.He is now pleading with her to come to Turkey,but she has told him to go jump in the sea.....Like she said to me,he is only allowed ONE wife in theUK,in Turkey as a Muslim he can have up to 4..No thankyou .,...

AlsancakJack



Joined: 14/08/2008
Posts: 5762

Message Posted:
05/06/2009 00:46

Oh dear I feel as though I am missing out on something in my life. I will talk to my wife about it tomorrow.

AJ

vikingqueen



Joined: 07/02/2009
Posts: 241

Message Posted:
05/06/2009 02:15

chinaeyes...... what a positive reply, I like it,, well said!!

phylray



Joined: 21/09/2007
Posts: 1727

Message Posted:
05/06/2009 02:32

Coachie How many Turkish men have more than one wife these days?

I lived years in Turkey and never met any with more than one!

Now Arab men! Yes, they do, but not always. I met one man with 10

children and he pretended to me he had 4 wives, but then admitted he only

wanted to see my reaction (which was "so what") and he had only one wife

and forbid her to wear the ugly mask which locals wear, and he took a lot of stick

for it from her family, but he wanted to look at a face, not a mask (sure she must

be beautiful, I said) Yes, but she wants 15 children now & it's costing a lot in private

school fees, says he! I must admit I rather liked him.

MsGarnet


Joined: 04/01/2009
Posts: 989

Message Posted:
05/06/2009 02:50

In Islam it is contingent upon the husband’s ability to support each wife, as to whether he could/would take four wives. In fact, having lived and worked in Iran, visited Dubai, Kuwait, Turkey, and lived in Cyprus, I can't think of one man I met, who had four wives. Just because someone CAN do something, doesn't extrapolate to them always doing it! Men historically have usually had relationships with, or married, younger women, so there is no reason why that cannot be reversed. Actually the father of my beautiful daughter is Moslem and slightly younger than I - and? so? Surely it is the compability of the two people concerned that matter, not their provenance, age, religion - or indeed anything else about them.

stellasstar1



Joined: 02/07/2008
Posts: 1519

Message Posted:
05/06/2009 09:49

To Bogeyman. Can I ask how many English women you know that have been asked by their Turkish partners to take them back to England to get a passport? As far as Cypriot men go, as a large majority came from the South originally, they have EU passports anyway. Most of them love the sun too much to want to go and live in England. As far as ageism goes, if you knew the culture you would know that age is not important to them. Yes, Turkish and sometimes Cypriot men do go sometimes with English women for a better life, but they also go with Cypriot women for a better life, but haven't young women(girls) been going with rich older men everywhere for years to improve their life. So what, if everybody is happy it's no one elses business. You say you have just started coming over, then maybe you should get to know the island and people better before you start commenting on the way people live their lives.

tommy13


Joined: 29/04/2009
Posts: 979

Message Posted:
05/06/2009 10:08

where are these older british women looking for fun with a younger turkish lad , can you pass them my number please , lol

TRNCVaughan


Joined: 27/04/2008
Posts: 4578

Message Posted:
05/06/2009 10:25

Ask these young Turkish lads for their sisters phone number while you are at it. Watch them suddenly develope a huge double standard.

sporty


Joined: 06/12/2007
Posts: 685

Message Posted:
05/06/2009 10:42

imagine if this was in england and you had 4 english wives! getting along as a nice family unit,sharing husbands affections and taking turns to do the school and asda runs! it'd be like world war 3! LOL. Nice thought though chaps!

sienna


Joined: 09/01/2009
Posts: 1627

Message Posted:
05/06/2009 10:44

Tommyboy have you not got enough on your hands with your current harem watch out Lilli will be getting jealous ))))))

dav88



Joined: 01/08/2008
Posts: 605

Message Posted:
05/06/2009 11:11

Even though I am strictly against it, I did actaully know a man who had 2 wives and they lived here happily with 5 kids all from the second wife but the first wife treated them like her own children as well.... They were not muslims though and despite what some people said on here you are legally NOT allowed to get married more than once in turkey unless they marry one of them the religious way they do without any legal paperwork.

tommy13


Joined: 29/04/2009
Posts: 979

Message Posted:
05/06/2009 11:27

sienna ...... im afraid we all have our weaknesses and the fairer sex is mine ,

Vaughan , well said , it reminds me of the following story recorded in islamic oral tradition called 'ahadith'

A single man once came to the prophet and said , ' oh , messeger of god , theres this one women , i want to go with her , may i have permission , the prophet said , would you like your mother to sleep around , he said ' no , your wife ? he said no, your sister ? he said no , then why you want to go woth someone elses mother , wife or sister , he put down his head , asked forgiveness and retreated.

snakes



Joined: 28/10/2008
Posts: 1512

Message Posted:
05/06/2009 11:36

a good test of love and devotion i was told is to put your misses and dog in the boot of your car for a couple of hours and see which one is all over you when you let them out !!! says it all !!! unless a young turkish bloke lets them out of course ha ha

kiwikid


Joined: 18/08/2008
Posts: 496

Message Posted:
05/06/2009 12:23

I've been with my Turkish Cypriot man for 15 years now, and have 2 chilren together, he still hasn't got a passport out of me as he doesn't want to live in New Zealand which is required to get the passport, as he doesn't want to leave his family. As for taking any money, well when we meet I had £50 to my name. So he lost out there.

There are women out there who come on holiday to have a holiday fling, the sad thing is a lot of these women are very lonely and the TURKISH men can be very charming. I'm sorry to say but if a women in her 60's really think that a lad of 18 is in love with her then it really does show how lonely she is.

As for English women moving here and leaving there husbands for another man, what is new! it happens everyday in every country, and as there are more Turkish men here then English the chances are they will be leaving their husband for one of them, if they had stayed in the uk I'm sure it would have an English guy.

Angela

janjin



Joined: 10/04/2008
Posts: 488

Message Posted:
05/06/2009 12:58

Hi everyone.

I'm full of cold AGAIN uggh, but had to laugh at your remarks snakes & etc.

EXCELLENT made my morning you crazy lot x

jj

Trudy


Joined: 25/05/2009
Posts: 369

Message Posted:
05/06/2009 13:14

Well said Kiwikid, i also have a turkish partner, we have been together almost 5 years now and i was the same, when i met him i had about 50 quid to my name so it certainly wasnt for my cash that we got together! He is a diver and most definitely does not want to go to Scotland to live as he has no intention of ever diving the North Sea!



There are a lot of charmers out there who do seem to end up with women a lot older than them and i agree, if a lady of that age believes a man in his early 20's in truly in love with her then i do also feel for them. I suppose it can happen, however, i believe it is rare. But there are a lot of nice guys out there too, and just because they are turkish doesn't mean they are all sleazes who just want a passport.



And people break up all the time, there are obviously more turks and turkish cypriots then there are brits so its not really shocking. And just because you dont find these women beautiful, doesnt mean no one will.

CasaCoco


Joined: 06/04/2009
Posts: 95

Message Posted:
05/06/2009 13:22

I have lived in Bahrain for over 20 years and very few Arab men here have more than one wife. If they do, it is usually the 'village types' (and I do not mean this in any derogatory way) that will have more than one, which is strange really because they are they ones who tend to have less of anything! However, that said, the King currently has 3 (or is it 4?) wives and has had for many years...still, he can afford them all



Couples here also split up after coming out to start a new life, though not necessarily because they have found a rich Bahraini boyfriend/girlfriend, most times it's just another Brit or whatever nationality. It seems to be happening in all countries, not just Cyprus. The problem is sometimes the change of lifestyle, it goes to people's heads, especially in the Gulf countries.



Lilli - if there are many lonely singles out in Cyprus, why not run a monthly singles lunch club? It would be one way for people to meet other singles?? Just a thought....

Trudy


Joined: 25/05/2009
Posts: 369

Message Posted:
05/06/2009 13:25

Thats a great idea Casa! I dont think there is anything like that here!

Pogle


Joined: 28/08/2008
Posts: 1536

Message Posted:
05/06/2009 13:26

dear, dear you lot are at it again.... ethnocentrism at its best.

You may want to look up the meaning of Polygyny and why it is culturally embraced. While you are at it have a look at polyandry, maybe a few of you would like to move to China?

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polygamy.



Chairman, TWC ( Turkish Wives Club)

CasaCoco


Joined: 06/04/2009
Posts: 95

Message Posted:
05/06/2009 13:28

Thanks Trudy. It's just an idea but it's one way for people to meet. Perhaps Lilli could do a set menu or a finger buffet or something?? Just one thing though....please wait for me to come back! haha



Lilli - we might be able to help a certain Mr. L this way????

CasaCoco


Joined: 06/04/2009
Posts: 95

Message Posted:
05/06/2009 13:29

Of course, it' doesn't have to be Lilli, anyone can organise it?

stellasstar1



Joined: 02/07/2008
Posts: 1519

Message Posted:
05/06/2009 14:48

I have a friend who moved out here with her YOUNGER English husband of many years, and left him for an OLDER ENGLISH man. How bad is that...............or is that ok as he is English. I hear so many people complaining about their other half(mainly women complaining about husbands), I wonder why they stay together. When asked they usually say something like it's easier, or better the devil you know, or can't be bothered to do anything about it, or there's the grandchildren. Here is such a small community, and people are so much friendlier, that we hear much more gossip than in England, where people tend to keep to themselves more. So some women (and men) decide that they don't want to just "put up" with their marriages, but try and start again. Here it is much easier to start again than in England. Some of course don't work out, but many do. Marriages have been known to break up in England as well !!

snakes



Joined: 28/10/2008
Posts: 1512

Message Posted:
05/06/2009 21:41

i didnt mean to offend anyone and hope everyone is happy and as lucky as me ! mrs snakes is not turkish but a true english rose as i am sure you ladies are ! therefore i can understand how lucky your men feel turkish or whatever nationality ! may i wish you all much happiness in this lovely place bless you all xx

jock1



Joined: 06/01/2008
Posts: 3786

Message Posted:
05/06/2009 22:21

Snakes you should put that to a tune, im sure it would sound cool.....

snakes



Joined: 28/10/2008
Posts: 1512

Message Posted:
05/06/2009 22:29

watcha Jock ! stole it from a song on an album by a band unknown but title was " wish i could really believe he meant it " la la la la la

beer soon mate !!

Lilli



Joined: 21/07/2008
Posts: 13081

Message Posted:
05/06/2009 22:30

Hi casa great idea I will work on it . i need to get first pick though xx take care

nurseawful



Joined: 06/02/2009
Posts: 5934

Message Posted:
05/06/2009 23:09

Bogeyman ,guess what it works both ways. Have you never heard of 'King Arthur' of karaglanoglua who arrived here from Glasgow with his wife to live approx 3 years ago. Anyway to cut a long story short 'Guinevere' became very ill and had to be shipped back to the UK.

About this time the King had his 60th birthday and we as humble servants attended. On arrival to his castle we found the King on his long throne with 2 lovely Maldovians, we thought they were waitresses for the night! Not so, King Arthur had fallen in love with one of the girls (aaaahhhh) next thing we know he had lost his telly, leather suite, car, plus most of his savings to buy the lovely princess's contract from the Enchanted Palace (nite club that she worked). He then sold his house for what two thirds of what he paid for it. And he lived happy every after. (nobody heard from him again when he left these shores for the lovely Moldovian countryside)

Moral of the story NO FOOL LIKE AN OLD FOOL!

CasaCoco


Joined: 06/04/2009
Posts: 95

Message Posted:
05/06/2009 23:10

Hi Lilli, I wondered where you were! Thanks, I used to go to something similar in the Algarve when I lived there and everyone had a good time. You may not necessarily meet Mr/Mrs Right but you can make new friendships if nothing else.



Hey, whad'ya mean you want first pick...you are already married! Behave yourself woman

spider


Joined: 03/01/2009
Posts: 5527

Message Posted:
06/06/2009 00:55

Hi,all....Well i would never even look at another man over here,never did at home either,Mr Spider is the BEST thing that has ever happend to me.and i often sing Heatwave Always and Forever to him he knows the words toooooo,and at times sings to me........(sick) never mind.....its called love...AHHHHHHHHH. yes we have times when we could just kill each other like we all do,but who the hell would want to start all over again,better the old man you know sooo well,than a Turkish toyboy...people often think Mr Spider looks Turkish anyway with his tan.!!



A Happy and content Spider,xx

Lilli



Joined: 21/07/2008
Posts: 13081

Message Posted:
06/06/2009 01:14

Hiya Casa been busy working. Had the forum members for lunch today and it was great. Dont spoil my fun you have to try before you buy. only joking I wouldnt swop him for the world or until he makes some money . Love yor idea though and have been giving it some thought.Can I email you to get some ideas how it works please. Have you settled back. Spider keep that love girl you both are so lovely. Me I have not looked at a turkish toyboy cos I cant afford to xxxxxx

CasaCoco


Joined: 06/04/2009
Posts: 95

Message Posted:
06/06/2009 09:39

Hi Lilli, yes of course you can email me. Are you able to access my email on this forum, if not let me know.



Have i settled back? Back, yes. Settled, no! Coming to NC unsettled me!!! In many ways it reminds me of the Western Algarve and I miss that. Bahrain is just hot and the pollution is dire. Am now feeling the need to wear a face mask, a la Jackson style It's the most unhealthy climate here so the sooner I get out the better.

simbas



Joined: 16/07/2007
Posts: 5943

Message Posted:
06/06/2009 09:43

Spider , my husbands got a better tan than yours { jesting } How are you keeping ? any more wild parties organised yet ?

take care , Simbas xx

CasaCoco


Joined: 06/04/2009
Posts: 95

Message Posted:
06/06/2009 09:45

Forgot to mention that the traffic here is diabolical, it's gridlock sometimes. You can't get anywhere fast, unlike 20 years ago!! The driving in NC was lovely, it was so much slower, how refreshing. Makes a change from the morons here who think they all drive for F1. Of course, that's not to say you don't need eyes in the back of your head when driving in NC!!

cronos


Joined: 26/10/2008
Posts: 2093

Message Posted:
06/06/2009 09:46

Lilli....."Had the forum members for lunch today"



I didn't know you were into cannibalism !

Lilli



Joined: 21/07/2008
Posts: 13081

Message Posted:
06/06/2009 09:52

Hi Cronos you would be so surprised what im into. take care xxx CASA WILL EMAIL YOU XXXX

CasaCoco


Joined: 06/04/2009
Posts: 95

Message Posted:
06/06/2009 14:51

Ok Lilli, I'll wait to hear from you xx

DavePeters


Joined: 10/07/2009
Posts: 3

Message Posted:
11/07/2009 00:45

I keep introducing my wife to young Turkish men but she won't take the hint.

bridie


Joined: 18/09/2008
Posts: 308

Message Posted:
11/07/2009 11:57

I am happy to say I don't understand any of this. Today we are celebrating our 52nd wedding anniversary!!

billyboy1


Joined: 01/06/2009
Posts: 590

Message Posted:
11/07/2009 12:21

Congrats Bridie.....



have a great day celebrating xx

sporty


Joined: 06/12/2007
Posts: 685

Message Posted:
11/07/2009 12:50

its our 17th anniversary today! i must have done something right i guess,i'd like to think that its my charm,wit,good looks and fit body,however it's probably the large house,her sports bmw z3 with her name on the number plate and her retiring from work at 40 and now going to have a holiday home in NC!! 17yrs!,you get less for armed robbery!lol.

baxi7


Joined: 23/09/2008
Posts: 130

Message Posted:
11/07/2009 13:23

change to the latest model .