Relationship advice wanted!!!

Miss Ruby


Joined: 19/07/2008
Posts: 193

Message Posted:
30/09/2009 15:21

Simple question:



From your experience, what is the best relationship advice you can give?



Only serious answers please!



Many thanks .......

flightholiday


Joined: 19/07/2007
Posts: 3217

Message Posted:
30/09/2009 15:28

Trust and truth

malsancak


Joined: 23/08/2009
Posts: 2874

Message Posted:
30/09/2009 15:44

please remember, when you give your advice, that Miss Ruby is only 10 years old.

Mal

DutchCrusader



Joined: 19/05/2008
Posts: 11281

Message Posted:
30/09/2009 15:46

RE msg 3: For some even lying is too difficult.

elko2



Joined: 24/07/2007
Posts: 4400

Message Posted:
30/09/2009 15:52

Don't touch it until you understand it.

ismet

No1Doyen


Joined: 04/07/2008
Posts: 16617

Message Posted:
30/09/2009 15:56

Respect each other and never lie.

MsGarnet


Joined: 04/01/2009
Posts: 989

Message Posted:
30/09/2009 15:58

malsancak - you state in your profile you are an Alevel moderator and examiner - yet post tripe in message 3!!!!!!!!!!



No wonder the next generation is larded with illiterates and children failed by the educational system, with people like you involved in their futures.



Ms Ruby is a mature adult - many of us know that for a fact - many of us know her personally - grow up for heavens sake

smithy


Joined: 17/07/2008
Posts: 5301

Message Posted:
30/09/2009 16:00

loyalty, friendship, and most of all trust

MsGarnet


Joined: 04/01/2009
Posts: 989

Message Posted:
30/09/2009 16:11

"The only sin is unkindness"



(a line from Cat on a Hot Tin Roof - Tennessee Williams)

elko2



Joined: 24/07/2007
Posts: 4400

Message Posted:
30/09/2009 16:36

msg. 7

MsGarnet,

Miss Ruby's age is given as 10 on her profile. Malsancak was clearly referring to that fact.

ismet

cronos


Joined: 26/10/2008
Posts: 2093

Message Posted:
30/09/2009 17:05

Very strange....MsGarnet...MsRuby.....any connection?

Tiggy


Joined: 25/07/2007
Posts: 1994

Message Posted:
30/09/2009 17:15

advice on relationships....." their will be tears" Ms Ruby,



Which priamry school are you attending ? have a word with your form teacher.

malsancak


Joined: 23/08/2009
Posts: 2874

Message Posted:
30/09/2009 17:15

MsGarnet, one thing I did teach was to check your facts before you mouth of in such an incredibly insulting way. What's your problem? As Elko stated, Miss Ruby has put her age down as 10 and so, well aware of child issues, I was warning the group to moderate their suggestions in the light of that information

Mal

Earlybird


Joined: 28/04/2009
Posts: 816

Message Posted:
30/09/2009 17:23

Ms Garnet, re msg 7 libel or what? Who rattled your cage today?

jimmyG


Joined: 14/08/2008
Posts: 900

Message Posted:
30/09/2009 18:32

Msg 7 Msgarnet - what kind of mature adult is it that states there age on here as a ten year old?!!! What a stupid post.

No1Doyen


Joined: 04/07/2008
Posts: 16617

Message Posted:
30/09/2009 18:43

I think to be fair malsancak's post, message 3, had only good intentions. He was merely pointing out that the poster (allegedly) is 10 years old. I'm sure no malice was intended. I too was unaware that the poster is a mature adult.



Anyway, lets keep on track.

proger1



Joined: 18/04/2009
Posts: 2919

Message Posted:
30/09/2009 20:05

As my father in law told me on the wedding speech.



Always remember those three little words if you want to keep your wife happy









Your Right Dear





Paul

malsancak


Joined: 23/08/2009
Posts: 2874

Message Posted:
30/09/2009 20:33

which reminds me of the order of the wedding ceremony - aisle, altar, hymn

Mal

proger1



Joined: 18/04/2009
Posts: 2919

Message Posted:
30/09/2009 20:36

Why did nobody tell me that vital piece of information before Mal

malsancak


Joined: 23/08/2009
Posts: 2874

Message Posted:
30/09/2009 20:56

I'll alter him!!!!

proger1



Joined: 18/04/2009
Posts: 2919

Message Posted:
30/09/2009 20:57

How did you manage to put that on the other thread ??????

nurseawful



Joined: 06/02/2009
Posts: 5934

Message Posted:
30/09/2009 21:01

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Smity



Joined: 14/09/2009
Posts: 826

Message Posted:
30/09/2009 21:21

Look into the eyes their always tell the truth

MsGarnet


Joined: 04/01/2009
Posts: 989

Message Posted:
30/09/2009 22:41

malsancak - unreserved apologies - I rarely look at profiles - I only looked at yours, because, knowing Ms Ruby from when she ran a Sunday market at Alsancak, and - oftentimes on this board, reading tripe from some members who seem to have a lot of time on their hands to post nonsense and ruin threads from people who are asking serious questions - I erroneously put you in that camp of protagonists :o(



I had no idea her profile was tongue in cheek - never having looked at it. As an A Level moderator, no doubt you would (quite rightly) tell me to check my facts before making assertions - will do in future!!!!!!!!!



Sorry

malsancak


Joined: 23/08/2009
Posts: 2874

Message Posted:
30/09/2009 22:59

I accept your apology, I too misjudged you and thought YOU were a sniper. Consider the matter forgotten which at my age... what was I saying?

Mal

No1Doyen


Joined: 04/07/2008
Posts: 16617

Message Posted:
30/09/2009 23:02

Well done MsGarnet for apologising. That takes a lot of courage.

boglefan



Joined: 07/06/2009
Posts: 511

Message Posted:
01/10/2009 00:13

From one that was never going to trust another male or re-marry. My OH of nine years got together as friends and only friends as both had gone through serious strife, but we both learned to trust again and that is the recipe trust, undersanding, tolerance and real friendship. OOPS and yes we were both Beatles Fans first time round, and we still enjoy a boogie or a smotchie of an evening. (Don't tell that to our grown up family or our eleven grandchildren, although our oldest grandson always at family parties askes for a Beatles smotchie for us). MMMMMMMMM thinking about it,life ain't that bad, but how can I turn down the volume when he snores!!!!!!!!

Lilli



Joined: 21/07/2008
Posts: 13081

Message Posted:
01/10/2009 00:17

Oh bogle you make me want to cry.Good on you girl happiness is what makes us tick. God love you xxxxxx

Cyprusquest


Joined: 09/12/2008
Posts: 428

Message Posted:
01/10/2009 12:15

Back to the subject loyalty, trust, friendship; dont expect too much of each other or the other half to change.

Miss Ruby


Joined: 19/07/2008
Posts: 193

Message Posted:
01/10/2009 18:42

Thank you all so much for your advice!!



Keep it coming!

DutchCrusader



Joined: 19/05/2008
Posts: 11281

Message Posted:
01/10/2009 23:44

RE msg 30: (...) Keep it coming! (...)

=> "Miss Ruby": You are a liar and a disgrace to the credibility of this board.

http://www.allcrusades.com/BB_pics/Picture 7+9.jpg

DutchCrusader



Joined: 19/05/2008
Posts: 11281

Message Posted:
01/10/2009 23:46

Sorry, typo in the URL: http://www.allcrusades.com/BB_pics/Picture_7+9.jpg

sophie


Joined: 04/08/2008
Posts: 7

Message Posted:
02/10/2009 00:04

why do you want one,there only after your money

Miss Ruby


Joined: 19/07/2008
Posts: 193

Message Posted:
02/10/2009 12:07

As regards Dutch Crusader's message, your word choice of 'liar' and 'disgrace' is competely overboard.



As you demonstrated above, anyone can make a typo, when you notice it, you can change it.

britvic



Joined: 05/09/2008
Posts: 3039

Message Posted:
02/10/2009 12:27

Miss Ruby, Is there something specific you want to know about relationships?







Vicki

Miss Ruby


Joined: 19/07/2008
Posts: 193

Message Posted:
02/10/2009 12:36

not really, just wanted to get advice, research I guess! Can always learn from others!

TRNCVaughan


Joined: 27/04/2008
Posts: 4578

Message Posted:
02/10/2009 13:40

Relationships?

Date as many babes as you can but always marry an ugly girl. They'll be grateful as hell and you won't have to worry about what they are up to when your back's turned.

elko2



Joined: 24/07/2007
Posts: 4400

Message Posted:
02/10/2009 15:04

I spoke to a friend today who was extremely sorry. Her son got married only three years ago and I did go to their wedding. Now they are in the middle of divorce proceedings. Apparently her son had a one night affair with an old friend and his wife is adamant not to forgive. Should she forgive or not, what do you think? They have no children.

ismet

Lilli



Joined: 21/07/2008
Posts: 13081

Message Posted:
02/10/2009 15:09

Its a shame TARASPRING problem page has now finished on here. She could have given you all the advice you need. Elko I think it depends on the circumstance of this one night. Was drink involved. Are children involved. She may be able to forgive but could she also forget. If not that would probably make life unbearable for both of them . I hope they can resolve it xx

No1Doyen


Joined: 04/07/2008
Posts: 16617

Message Posted:
02/10/2009 15:19

Where did taraspring problem page go?

MsGarnet


Joined: 04/01/2009
Posts: 989

Message Posted:
02/10/2009 16:23

elko2 - every story has its own unique individual circumstances. It depends on whether they are in love and both want to keep the marriage intact. He strayed - why did he stray, what reason did he give - are they sexually incompatible (in this day and age, one would think they would have that sorted before marrying) do they have problems communicating their wishes and needs and desires and problems with each other in every context? Do they respect each other (SOOOOOOOO important). The other woman is no friend of either of them, and has to be dropped forthwith, whatever the couple decide. Are the married couple from different cultures ie: both have different ideas about what marriage entails? What age are they. Are both sets of parents keeping out of it - supportive emotionally of their offspring but NOT dictating, instructing, informing their child what to do - it is NOT their business, these two are adults, they must stand and fall by their OWEN decisions, so can never blame

MsGarnet


Joined: 04/01/2009
Posts: 989

Message Posted:
02/10/2009 16:29

anyone else if what they decides turns out to be the wrong decision, no-one knows a person (even parents) as a life partner, as well as the other partner. I am NOT condoning/making excuses for the bloke, but some men when deeply grieving, or made redundant, or enduring an emotional tsunami of some sort, instead of turning to the one they love - use emotionless sex as a plaster over a chasm - it never works - but there you go........everyone has their own coping mechanisms. Hopefully he used protection, aside from pregnancy, STD's are rife. How remorseful is he? I do believe everyone can make ONE mistake, and if truly devastated both at themselves, and the repercussions of what they have done, are entitled to try and claw their way back to where they were before, maybe with the aid of Counselling, understanding that broken trust can take a very long time to regain, but if what they had was worthwhile and the real deal, why throw it away in a fit of hubris or on the advice of others.

proger1



Joined: 18/04/2009
Posts: 2919

Message Posted:
02/10/2009 20:00

Elko, ref msg 38

Been there, done that, not proud and definately a lot poorer because of my stupidity.



In my case I know that taking a chance on a 1 night thing and getting away with leads to believing you can get away with it again.



There are different stories and different reasons but from what you say in the original message he did the dirty deed with someone he had known for a while which would mean there are more feelings involved than just his libido and I think that would be the hard part to forgive.