Should we ALL be anonymous, or our real selves?

Texas


Joined: 22/09/2009
Posts: 634

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 18:21

If everyone provides their true identities, I believe a lot of problems on 44 will disappear.



If everyone is anonymous, there will be problems, but if you do not really know who you are arguing with, it cannot go too far.



The problem here, IMHO, is that some are anonymous and some are genuine.



With so many anonymous members, it has become too dangerous, to show your true identity.



I think it's time to make a new rule; either anonymity, or only absolutly genuine members.



Finally, if the FA's were anonymous, they will be slagged off a lot less. A FA, could still post under their true identity, but moderate under an anonymous identity.

Pugwash


Joined: 06/09/2010
Posts: 1797

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 18:24

So what is your true identity Texas? do you think our forum names should be our real names? not sure about that? how would it work?

Jefferson


Joined: 17/05/2010
Posts: 360

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 18:24

If you can't say who you are don't post!

Texas


Joined: 22/09/2009
Posts: 634

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 18:32

Pugwash, as my identity states, my name is Steve. Nuff said!



The reason will be come clear after the next sentence.



Jefferson, so you put your real name up on your profile, no email though. I wonder why? You have also given your telephine number in a post about packing boxes.



Now if I was one of these "nutters", I would have your telephone number but you would not have mine.



This was why I wished to debate this issue, not be told I can't post.



Regards



Steve

spider


Joined: 03/01/2009
Posts: 5527

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 18:33

I love me, myself and I, Maria and I love being Spider,X...Whats wrong in being for REAL ? I am after all what I am and all what you see is all I have to offer..Honest and loving cant be assed to be anything else seems too much like hard work.





Spider,X

joanie1


Joined: 25/07/2008
Posts: 164

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 19:08

I think if people have something to say they should have the courage to show their own name and where they live in their profile - if you want to remain anonymous remain silent.



Just my own opinion



Joan

sloan



Joined: 24/02/2009
Posts: 808

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 19:11

I am definitely WYSIWYG!

newlad



Joined: 02/03/2008
Posts: 7819

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 19:14

Im Sparticus.

proger1



Joined: 18/04/2009
Posts: 2919

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 19:15

I guess it comes down to whether you believe that there will be backlash if you give your true identity, I can be as argumentative as most and much more than some but I am very easy to find if someone requires a face to face apology for my indiscretions but bear in mind that we can't be right all the time so I might not be due to apologise.



I personally think the forum has run its course and is on a downward spiral, there are still a lot of nice helpful people available but there are far too many trouble makers who can join as anyone and post whatever they want just to make things worse.



Paul

Brinsley


Joined: 04/04/2009
Posts: 6858

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 19:18

Who am I, what am I, where am I going in life, am I real person or just a figment of everyone else's imagination!



Richard

Pugwash


Joined: 06/09/2010
Posts: 1797

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 19:31

Ok Steve that is fine, but do you think all members should post real names and e-mails? I am not sure completely what you are getting at here.

juliamoons



Joined: 14/05/2009
Posts: 849

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 19:32

Who cares they either like you or they don't. I think only true identity should be used. Because easier to find out who is who. Then those coming on with false id's could be easier to just dismiss because they are nobody's.

Brinsley


Joined: 04/04/2009
Posts: 6858

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 19:36

Msg 12

Problem solved!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3HHQbGI92MY



Richard

Texas


Joined: 22/09/2009
Posts: 634

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 19:44

Check the replies?



Some jokes; from members with 4500+ posts!

Others have a little dig.

And a couple who wish to debate the issue and continue the topic.



Pugwash, I think because we live in a "goldfish bowl" and beer/wine is cheap and freely available, my personal opinion, for what it's worth, is for everyone to be anonymous. That way, it will never get too serious.



I do not think you can ever get all genuine ID's. They may appear to be genuine, but it only takes one idiot to cause some serious stuff.



I think if everyone was genuine, this forum would disappear very quickly, and/or become too "happy-clappy".



One final point, those members that do not post are well and truly in the majority. I estimate for every regular poster, there are probaly 30-50 that do not post. How can we get them to post? This will then increase the opinions and make it more balanced. There's a good word "BALANCED".

Brinsley


Joined: 04/04/2009
Posts: 6858

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 20:05

Texas

Here's balance!

Scan-090503-0002



Richard

Brinsley


Joined: 04/04/2009
Posts: 6858

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 20:07

Sorry doesn't work.



Richard

Scoty


Joined: 23/05/2010
Posts: 846

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 20:32

if you are not from the west - don't know certain people - you will never be accepted here - n o matter how long you h

ave stayed here or how much you can help in questions raised - the majority will rule ans you always end at guidos wi9th the usual posters

catalkoykid


Joined: 15/02/2009
Posts: 1190

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 20:39

im from the east lol

nurseawful



Joined: 06/02/2009
Posts: 5934

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 20:48

message 17,



I live in the west (Lapta)and have lots of friends here and on the odd occasion travel to Esentepe to meet the 'eastenders' I am accepted no matter where I go in NC so without being rude you are talking a load of verbal diarrhoea.



Scoty Why didn't you come to Guidos today all were welcome? Reasonable question!



Chris

zerochlor


Joined: 03/04/2009
Posts: 4024

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 20:53

only real id,s,those who are found to be useing aliases or second id,s should be kicked in the nutz,no idea what should be done to women useing aliases,tar and feather them

Texas


Joined: 22/09/2009
Posts: 634

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 20:56

That's nice Nursey. Message 19.



Scoty has an opinion that you do not agree with. This is how Scoty feels.



If you were Scoty, or any one of the hundreds that shares his feelings/opinions, would you even bother to get involved on here? He stuck his neck above the parapet, and gets his bo***cks shot down!



On a serious note; your post was excellent after the personal insult.

nurseawful



Joined: 06/02/2009
Posts: 5934

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 21:15

Texas,



I did in no way want to insult or belittle Scoty. if he / she feels left out they are more than welcome to come with me and meet the lovely people on this island.



Believe it or not i was so shy at one time in life I blamed other people for having friends that I did not!!



Scoty if you feel you want to meet more folks here e-mail me. That applies to you as well Texas.



Chris

BillyB


Joined: 19/05/2008
Posts: 436

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 21:45

What about people who suffer with alzheimers, is it ok for them to have multiple ids?

Texas


Joined: 22/09/2009
Posts: 634

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 22:51

Nice post Nursey.



It's strange but when a topic gets a little "heat" in it, there appears to me, that the posts quicky follow one another.



When things are "settled" as they now appear to be, the topic loses interest!



I think most friendships need to be built gradually. Perhaps some members would like to post a bit more, ask a few questions, give some help and take it nice and slow.



Cyprus 44 should be the vehicle that can make this happen.

Texas


Joined: 22/09/2009
Posts: 634

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 22:57

BillyB.



That's one of the funniest posts for a long time.



However, I might find it funny, but I bet you someone, maybe with experience of this condition, will feel the need to "have a go".



This just shows you can't please everyone.



Before I post anything, I imagine myself in a restaurant with a group of people, most of whom are acquaintances, thinking before I say something, how will it come accross?



Even then, it sometimes goes wrong, even when I read my post before hitting the "post reply" button!

Groucho



Joined: 26/04/2008
Posts: 7993

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 23:03

Steve,



It's a nice idea but given the attacks that occur from time to time I don't advise people to publish their email address on this BB. Evidence of abuse of members' email is all too frequently apparent.



I know you and you know me... lots of people know who I am and anybody I think could benefit from knowing how to contact me off-board I give my details and/or number to. Although with no PM facility it's not so easy.



If such a rule was brought in, how would you police it? How would you make someone prove they are who they say they are? Particularly those 'overseas' members....

Brinsley


Joined: 04/04/2009
Posts: 6858

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 23:04

Texas

Just in case you're getting homesick!



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IpHiURKkY0Q



Richard

nicolab


Joined: 30/09/2010
Posts: 40

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 23:06

i am!



i genuinely want to meet people out here and enjoy my time in cyprus

i personally dont want to hide behind any fences

ive provided a lot of information on this site and i dont see anything wrong with that.

the only thing i havent done on here is sent in a photo .. but im sure that as ive provided my email address a quick facebook search would show exactly who i am.

this site was intended as a means to help people, answer each others questions, give opinions and show support for those not having such a good day

i dont see anything wrong with that

Groucho



Joined: 26/04/2008
Posts: 7993

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 23:07

PS I'm schizophrenic.... so I'm both going to bed.

sadoldbird


Joined: 04/10/2010
Posts: 25

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 23:18

Nurseawful, why did you say he/she? When I joined I thought you had to state male or female? Am I wrong.

Still wish I could have thought of a better name the one I chose in haste

Brinsley


Joined: 04/04/2009
Posts: 6858

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 23:19

Nicola

I'll meet up with you in Town but my humour, old age and ugliness was enough to prevent any mosquitoes entering my flat this year, word got around even to the insect community! You may email me (SHOWN) and I'll help in anyway possible, but if no knowledge is required we'll just settle down to a beer!



Richard

sadoldbird


Joined: 04/10/2010
Posts: 25

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 23:22

Isn't this where people say on here that msg31 has gone off topic.



It's a good topic why change to something that is not related

sadoldbird


Joined: 04/10/2010
Posts: 25

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 23:24

Sorry Brinsley, didn't see Nicola's post. I am only just getting the hang of this posting.

Brinsley


Joined: 04/04/2009
Posts: 6858

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 23:25

Msg 32 read Msg 28 Then come back to me!



Richard

sadoldbird


Joined: 04/10/2010
Posts: 25

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 23:27

I have see msg33

BillyB


Joined: 19/05/2008
Posts: 436

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 23:32

Texas Thankyou, I'm not too concerned about anyone experiencing this condition having a go as there probably post it on the wrong thread.



I believe your close family and friends will tell you when one is being a knob, (a regular occurence with me) anyone else, who cares.



Is nobody concerned about id fraud?



I don't think anyone would chat to me if I posted my picture.

Brinsley


Joined: 04/04/2009
Posts: 6858

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 23:33

Not enough posts for you, 'Sado' or 'Nico' to see, richardbgray@hotmail.com

Sorry to disappoint but nothing to hide!



Richard

sadoldbird


Joined: 04/10/2010
Posts: 25

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 23:35

Sado made me laugh. Thanks Brinsley.

LaptaMike


Joined: 07/10/2009
Posts: 1679

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 23:38

ooo Brinsley, shot down in flames mate ;-)

johndp


Joined: 08/09/2009
Posts: 497

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 23:39

Much of the trouble is that people read into many posts things that are not there, when one makes a comment or questions something, the guard comes up and some think that it is a personal attack on them, mostly it is not so and there have been some corkers on here lately, but do the mods do anything about it - seldom - and usually for the wrong reasons when action is taken

nicolab


Joined: 30/09/2010
Posts: 40

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 23:44

re msg 31 youre funny! and probably would enjoy a beer with you. out here it doesnt matter what we look like were all expats and tend to/should stick together.(i dont speak any turkish so id have a job on my hands otherwise) ive regularly found especially in a coffee shop in town that all the expats get together have a bit of banter and blether then get on with our days. its enjoyable and a great way to meet people when youre new here



and msg 36 im not bothered about id fraud .. im not going back to live in GB we cant get credit here my name and email address isnt giving away my uk or nc addresses my dob national insurance bank or passport details,



there may be people who have exaggerated opinions and those who want to cause debate - let them - gives us something to talk to them about when you meet them in random places but if we dont know who they are or real names its going to make it a lot harder out here between strangers than it needs to be

Brinsley


Joined: 04/04/2009
Posts: 6858

Message Posted:
05/10/2010 23:56

Nico

Phone me when you're next in Town, 0533 848 1278 but sorry for another let down, I'm a Kiwi expatriate so slightly on another wavelength which some people call madness!



Mike Msg 39

My 'REAL' name is Jean Pierre Claude the greatest WW1 pilot and when I go down, I go down in flames!



Richard

nicolab


Joined: 30/09/2010
Posts: 40

Message Posted:
06/10/2010 00:26

im regularly in coffee world first thing in the mornings with my mum after we take my son to school provided we have a day to waste its so easily done here! shes been window shopping so tomorrow she plans not to forget her purse!! so probably should be there til about 10am or so

littlejohn


Joined: 09/03/2009
Posts: 316

Message Posted:
06/10/2010 03:14

Say what you mean and mean what you say!

Groucho



Joined: 26/04/2008
Posts: 7993

Message Posted:
06/10/2010 07:04

Still no answer to the question of policing such a rule....



We have business members too.... how do we have pictures for Credit West?



I have been trying for months to get me picture up (a replacement for my old avatar which was judged unsuitable for this board) yet other members have clearly got pictures which are not them... if this can't be policed I don't have much confidence that the rest can be enforced.

fiendishpaul


Joined: 18/05/2008
Posts: 1720

Message Posted:
06/10/2010 07:42

As has been said before, I think that it would be nigh on impossible to 'prove' ones real identity when becoming a member, short of sending a scanned copy of your passport to the Mods !! In reality, if people played by the rules there shouldn't be a need for it.



Forums/bulletin boards are meant to be there for people to seek information or debate a wide range of local/international issues, unfortunately, it seems that a small group of the 'membership' are intent on having a slanging match regardless of the subject being discussed. Debate is based on the premise of people discussing an issue upon which they have differing views, but just because you have differing views does not mean that debate has to become personal (as it does all too often on here). Once you make it personal, then as far as I am concerned, you have lost the argument.



Until folks start to show each other a bit of respect , then the forum can only go one way - downwards !!



Paul

nurseawful



Joined: 06/02/2009
Posts: 5934

Message Posted:
06/10/2010 07:50

Message 30 Sadoldbird,



The reason I put he / she? Is unfortunately a minority do not truthfully put their proper name / gender on here so just sometimes you don't know!



Groucho's message 46 explains it wonderfully.



Chris

japeal



Joined: 12/09/2008
Posts: 1052

Message Posted:
06/10/2010 07:55

Texas,



Agree fully with your first post, however you then comment on mess3 about no email, you yourself have not stated your email/gender/marital staus/location or occupation.



If you needed help/assistance and members knew where you were located then you might get more response.

For example I live out near Tatlisu, but if someone wanted to borrow something or needed a lift etc and I did not know where they were located then I would not bother to respond.

johndp


Joined: 08/09/2009
Posts: 497

Message Posted:
06/10/2010 08:23

Japeal never met you but liked your post on another board, you seem to be a rational character, it does get you down when you post things and they get taken the wrong way, your post is a good one again and makes sense but there are many on here and I include some mods who have huge chips on their shoulders and are incapable of rational discussion, I think it may be the sun and dont you see some of them they must have the last word.

Nurseawful you are a lovely person but you have been savaged on occasion as well, if some of these people were to stop and think for even 30 seconds and reread their posts before hitting the send button it might help, you can tell they are either inebriated or fizzing with anger by the way the posts are typed.

But hey it makes for good television as they say

INCOMING !!!

Groucho



Joined: 26/04/2008
Posts: 7993

Message Posted:
06/10/2010 08:46

Paul,



I agree, it's all a matter of trust.. some 'members' reason for joining in is to cause strife - it seems that is how they get their kicks.



Also think that once a poster uses phrases like 'get a life' they have gone off topic and have no useful input.

Texas


Joined: 22/09/2009
Posts: 634

Message Posted:
06/10/2010 09:54

Japeal, message 48.



Any additional information regarding my missing information, could (and would) be taken by those who choose to disagree with me, in a way in which would not be in my best interests. Phew, that was a long sentence!



If I do need help, then I would set up an alternate email address, so members could contact me. I would also buy a PAYG sim card, pay cash (not use it near my home, Gavin!) and give out that number. You can now buy PAYG sim cards without proving who you are.



Until this forum has the facility to send a PM (Personal Message) I refuse to send in my photo, or supply any additional information. There are just too many sad bastards who will use this information to further their own sad lives.



However, there are quite a number of members who do know who I am.



Brinsley, the member name "Texas" has nothing whatsoever to do with a State in America!

Texas


Joined: 22/09/2009
Posts: 634

Message Posted:
06/10/2010 09:58

Is anyone as surprised as I am that no FA has decided to join in?



This topic does involve them.



Perhaps it a lose-lose situation for them, until things change, or the membership improves?

martinD41


Joined: 06/09/2010
Posts: 3001

Message Posted:
06/10/2010 16:49

Iv'e got a good idea! It solves everything..................

doggiesteve


Joined: 06/10/2010
Posts: 265

Message Posted:
06/10/2010 21:37

Looking at some of the posts over the last week you must have a death wish to put your photo on here the way some people resort to rabid pack hound tactics you could well live to regret it.



Having read the rules I can not understand why some are allowed to get away with it ??



I shall not be putting my photo on or joining the facebook group to leave my self open to abuse should I fall foul of they THAT APPEAR TO HAVE FREE REIGN.

sadoldbird


Joined: 04/10/2010
Posts: 25

Message Posted:
06/10/2010 23:30

Thankyou Chris, msg47.



The way I see this is that no written message can ever convey the tone of the sender. So while some people may find something amusing, others may take offence. It is so difficult reading some of the past posts and trying to understand the' tone' in which it was sent.

I spent a long time reading the postsings before joining up?. Then took the plunge. I will only post if I have something useful to say.



However, I did ask a simple question yesterday, and although it may have appeared trivial it was genuine, yet some of the responses I got I didn't understand

darrener2


Joined: 30/12/2008
Posts: 187

Message Posted:
06/10/2010 23:39

Sadoldbird'

Did you understand my reply to your question?

"Press 'sign out,' then f5 to refresh the page."

If not, then I will try to explain further.

D2

sadoldbird


Joined: 04/10/2010
Posts: 25

Message Posted:
06/10/2010 23:41

No I understood thanks. Have tried it and it works X