Turkish Men Renewed

scampy



Joined: 15/01/2008
Posts: 941


Message Posted:
27/09/2008 12:14

Anyone considering dating a Turkish man, be it married or single here's a little advise from someone that's been there,

They are all mostly married to ugly fat women so they know nobody else will look twice

They treat you like a princess for the first couple of months, then slowly they treat you like crap

They are the most jealous spiecies on earth, think they are the best when the truth is

They lie, they cheat, they don't know what loyal means

Or Love

So take this as a warning girls



Is there any nice men left in this country?????

jock1



Joined: 06/01/2008
Posts: 1333


Message Posted:
27/09/2008 12:51

Yes scampi, i am here.............

scampy



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Posts: 941


Message Posted:
27/09/2008 13:08

I was married to my hubby for 18 years together for 24

He was a really good man ( a lot older than me though ) and we just driffed apart

So why can't I find a decent one like he was all those years ago

rocky


Joined: 17/10/2007
Posts: 614


Message Posted:
27/09/2008 13:12

scampi if there are no nice men in TRNC dont worry I will be there for a few days later in the year so at least there will be one nice man there, although not turkish

jock1



Joined: 06/01/2008
Posts: 1333


Message Posted:
27/09/2008 13:19

It's like any thing you value scampie, you must work on a relationship dont take each other for granted.













Agony uncle here..........

elko2



Joined: 24/07/2007
Posts: 591


Message Posted:
27/09/2008 13:21

Scampy,

There is a great deal of difference between Turkish Cypriots and Turks but I don't think you were making a distinction between the two. Am I wrong?

ismet

scampy



Joined: 15/01/2008
Posts: 941


Message Posted:
27/09/2008 13:25

We didn't take each other for granted, I moved here with our daughters while he stayed in the Uk to work

In the end the distance got in the way

He was suddenly getting older and I got more independent, and 7 years later we are divorcing

I am not saying I am easy to live with like most women I can be difficult and always like to get my own way

scampy



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Posts: 941


Message Posted:
27/09/2008 13:26

Hi Elko 2

I have found they are all the same

scampy



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Message Posted:
27/09/2008 13:28

Rocky

What make you different and when and why are you coming over here

rocky


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Posts: 614


Message Posted:
27/09/2008 13:28

is the problem with you then?

rocky


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Posts: 614


Message Posted:
27/09/2008 13:29

reply message 9 - I may be coming over to get away from the wife??

scampy



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Posts: 941


Message Posted:
27/09/2008 13:31

I don't know

I have been here on my own for 7 years so I am really independant but then I always have been, I believe in everyone being equal

I am bringing up 2 teenagers on my own so I suppose I am a bit sinical right now

But I am normal

scampy



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Posts: 941


Message Posted:
27/09/2008 13:34

Jock 1

I dont think you can say we took each other for granted as it lasted 21 good years out of 24

rocky


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Posts: 614


Message Posted:
27/09/2008 13:45

Scampi many marraiges last because the couple are financially unable to make the split so its quite normal really many couples go their own way in their 40s 50s or even later

scampy



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Posts: 941


Message Posted:
27/09/2008 14:38

I'm not that old

rocky


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Posts: 614


Message Posted:
27/09/2008 15:05

you have claimed to be 39 and for a woman that normally means 45. Ladies they tend to lose count ioth in their late twenties in their late thirties whilst men mature and become more sophisticated ladies are either 29 for about 8 years or 39....

Lambousa Gordon


Joined: 03/11/2007
Posts: 204


Message Posted:
27/09/2008 15:54

My wife is neither ugly nor fat.



Too, I think that description could not be employed with the vast majority of my Turkish friends' wives.



I'm sorry your marriage failed and that you're finding it hard to find someone to take the place of your husband but please refrain from rather insulting generalisations concerning our wives and us.

scampy



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Posts: 941


Message Posted:
27/09/2008 16:12

Lambruso Gordon



That was meant for my ex sorry if I affended you I didn't mean to

He knows who I am talking about

scampy



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Posts: 941


Message Posted:
27/09/2008 16:13

Rocky

The true number is 39 and not looking forward to 40

The butler


Joined: 22/06/2007
Posts: 379


Message Posted:
27/09/2008 17:07

Hi Scampy,



A quick calculation tells me you met your husband when you were only 15 and you married quite young. I think as you matured you realised you wanted different things in life. It is one of the dangers of marrying young. I know I have been there. I hope like me you find someone else to share your life with and it lasts for the thirty years we have been married and more. Instead of feeling sorry for yourself, you must make an effort and try and make new friends and meet new people, who knows Mr right could be just round the corner.



The Butlers wife

scampy



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Posts: 941


Message Posted:
27/09/2008 17:50

Hi The butlers wife

I was 16 and married when I was 21

I thought I had met someone ( the Turkish guy ) but after telling me he loved me and that we were made for each other and being together for months, today dumped me over the phone

So you can see why I am a little bit sore

scampy



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Posts: 941


Message Posted:
27/09/2008 17:53

Mrs Butler

I just feel like I am missing the boat, I am not getting any younger and with 2 teenage girls in tow who would be interested

Also I don't like going out on my own either

scampy



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Posts: 941


Message Posted:
27/09/2008 19:28

Any advice out there???

JONNY


Joined: 21/09/2008
Posts: 10


Message Posted:
27/09/2008 19:58

try an englishman

elko2



Joined: 24/07/2007
Posts: 591


Message Posted:
27/09/2008 20:05

Scampy,

I think I understand your position and no hard feelings about what you said about us i.e. Turkish and Turkish Cypriot men. Lumping a group together like that was wrong and I can assure you there are significant differences in the outlook of Turkish men and TC men in general but of course each individual is different.



You married at a very early age which was a mistake. Furthermore you stayed separate for years, another major mistake. Anyway, put all that behind you. If you are still going through the divorce proceedings I hope you get through with as little pain as possible.



At 39 you are very young and there is no reason why you should not be able to find the right person to marry. I hope you do not make another major mistake and fall in love with a handsome 22 year old Turkish man. That will be a disaster.



Some like partying and have a good time, some enjoy a peaceful family life. I think you are of the latter type. Otherwise, with your hubby far away for years, you would have already got a lover tugged up somewhere and you would have no worries about geting a divorce. So my advice to you is keep away from married men and gigoloes. Your best bet is to find a divorced man or a widower possibly with teenage children of his own probably aged between 40-55.



I have not seen your picture and therefore I cannot comment on your looks but I believe that there are no ugly women, only those who do not know how to look after themselves. I suggest you get professional help to improve your looks if necessarry. There are lots of people from the expat community who fit my description above. So go out and enjoy yourself as much as you can and I am sure you will find the right person in no time. With a bit of common sense I am sure you will be able to tell the difference between those who are sincere and those who are after sex only. I have nothing to say about what happens between two consenting adults but clear indication of intentions are there if you want to see them.

I hope you find the right person. Good luck.

ismet

scampy



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Posts: 941


Message Posted:
27/09/2008 20:28

Hi Ismet

Thanks for that I have just sent in a photo albeit it was took about 4 years ago so my hair is longer but not much else has changed

It would be good to go out and Enjoy myself if I ever went out at all, I never go out because A, I don't drink that much abd B, because I hate going out alone

Also I have no worries about my divorce, just about finding Mr Right

The butler


Joined: 22/06/2007
Posts: 379


Message Posted:
27/09/2008 20:52

Hi Scampy,



Don't take this the wrong way but you sound desparate for someone to love you. Love starts by learning to love yourself, if you can do this you will be more confident about yourself and make new friends. You don't need to drink to enjoy yourself scampy, build up your confidence and go out there and have some fun.



The Butlers wife

scampy



Joined: 15/01/2008
Posts: 941


Message Posted:
27/09/2008 20:55

Hi

Thanks

I feel a lot better now

I am ok with myself but it can get you down when you are always being kicked in the teeth

phylray


Joined: 21/09/2007
Posts: 573


Message Posted:
27/09/2008 22:40

Please be brave. You have taken a bashing but be strong.

I was 37 when I was widowed, and left with 4 kids in middle of a degree

Be careful who you choose. Have made mistakes myself, but women are

strong and keep control always.

w26kay



Joined: 14/10/2007
Posts: 455


Message Posted:
28/09/2008 01:23

Scampy I am a divorce lawyer in the UK. I know you are low right now and one of the things we do (part of the job) is counselling. If you feel it could help you in any way I would be happy to assist confidentially and free of charge - my email address is kbarton@pauljenkinssolicitors.co.uk .

simbas



Joined: 16/07/2007
Posts: 2155


Message Posted:
28/09/2008 05:50

hi scampy , you seem quite depressed judging by your posts ,there are so many kind people on here trying to give you the help and support that you need right now , my advice to you is to take all the advice and support you can get and build on it , why do you think you need a man ? you don't , not right now anyway , you need to heal yourself ,and find yourself a good girlfriend to sound off to , your vibes portray a victim , and thats the last thing you want men to pick up on , it will only attract the wrong men for the wrong reasons , in your vulnerable state at the moment .you dont need it , and hey , 40 ain't too bad , chin up girl , we are the stronger sex , remember !

kind regards , simbas

TRNCVaughan


Joined: 27/04/2008
Posts: 430


Message Posted:
28/09/2008 06:22

At your age and with 2 teenage kids, you need a "steady" bloke like a hole in the head. All the steady blokes your age are taken - if they say they aren't they're either lying to you or there's a reason why they aren't taken.

What you need is a "Saturday Night Special" bloke to take you out now and again, treat you nicely and haul your ashes for you. Someone who won't phone you up every 5 mins during the rest of the week to check up on you and who doesn't resent you going out with, or talking to, your other friends, male or female. This may not sound like an ideal relationship to you, but at least you know where you are with it.

Chris and Sue



Joined: 07/08/2008
Posts: 58


Message Posted:
28/09/2008 06:56

Scampy!

Just get on with your life & enjoy your daughters while you can, before you know it they will be leading their own lives. You will meet someone when you least expect to, maybe someone you know already who knows.



keep smiling



Sue

scampy



Joined: 15/01/2008
Posts: 941


Message Posted:
28/09/2008 16:25

Hi All

Thanks for all your kind thoughts and comments,

I was just really supprised how much support you have just given me

I do still feel very rore had very hurt to have been (led up the garden path) and lied to, perhaps I am just to honest

But, I am have really been put off men now

Sue, my girls are my life and thats the most important thing, because thier dad is no support what so ever even moneywise too

w26 kay

I will email you for sure



Thanks again

scampy



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Posts: 941


Message Posted:
28/09/2008 16:27

Simbas

Thanks for those words and making me cry (Again)

Yes I am hurting badly

scampy



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Message Posted:
29/09/2008 14:07

Elko 2

You can now see my picture

Do I need work doing on my appearance???

ukturk



Joined: 01/09/2007
Posts: 1961


Message Posted:
29/09/2008 15:26

hi scampy

you really dont need approval from our mature gentlemen on the forum its the younger ones who are in the best postion to comment (no offence elko lol)



from your display picture you dont need work on your appearance, you scub up pretty well and dont worry about hitting the big 40 cos 40 is the new 30 so your are still very young and irelavant of having two kids, most good honest men would jump at the chance to date or have a companion such as yourself

young,clever,indepandant,makes her own money and owns her own buisness ok enuf of the a.se licking!!! lol

and like wot a few posters have said when you look for it you will never find or you will attract the wrong sorts, its when you are not looking for it is when it happens

hope this helps lol

ukturk

scampy



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Posts: 941


Message Posted:
29/09/2008 15:59

ukturk

Thank you that was really nice of you to say all those things, you have made me feel a lot better and made me smile

Thank you

Coachie



Joined: 29/07/2008
Posts: 812


Message Posted:
29/09/2008 16:16

Scampy ..Just keep your wits about you cos there are a few of the opposite gender would exploit your current situation.Beware of the wolves in sheeps clothing and Ifeel sure everything will turn outfor the best. It did for me,been married to her indoors for 42 yrs,so something must be right.As Simbas said keep yer chin up...

scampy



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Posts: 941


Message Posted:
29/09/2008 16:25

Coachie



Thanks



And I think I have had enough crap ones for the time being,

PtePike



Joined: 20/05/2008
Posts: 2345


Message Posted:
29/09/2008 17:22

Susie,



Over and above all the other encouragement and good advice, why don't you have a chat with a GP? I think a clinical setting would be a good place for you and an expert to decide whether you may have a touch of depression as a result of your recent troubles. A problem shared and all that.

scampy



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Posts: 941


Message Posted:
29/09/2008 17:40

Hi PtePike

No Offence but I am not ill

PtePike



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Message Posted:
29/09/2008 17:43

No offence taken, scampy. Just a suggestion.

scampy



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Message Posted:
29/09/2008 17:56

what makes you think im clinically depressed anywho?

ive just had to sell my house my husband gives me no money atall to supply my children with so i am permanantly asked for money and not able to give it. work is not good so struggling to clothe and feed them. just been dumped over the phone by the man i loved.. how would you feel :S

rocky


Joined: 17/10/2007
Posts: 614


Message Posted:
29/09/2008 17:56

scampi you have had loads of advice just to summarise, dont go looking, enjoy your children and your friends, join a club or somewhere you can meet people, dancing classes or anything to get you out. Dont get bored you have many years left more than you have lived (if the stats are right) probably inexcess of 55 years so you dont need make any quick decisions. Take care you have made yourself very visibe.

scampy



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Posts: 941


Message Posted:
29/09/2008 17:58

thankk you.

i dont like socialising.

my kids are too old to be enjoyed byy their mum

my oldest daughter is a stropy cow and the other is even stroppier :P

elko2



Joined: 24/07/2007
Posts: 591


Message Posted:
29/09/2008 22:49

Re. Msg. 37

UK Turk,

What is all that about mature gentlemen on this forum? Mature? Yes. Gentleman? Well not for me to say but I do have my doubts at times

Sorry UK Turk, you are too young to undrstand these things, lol



Scampy,

You are gorgeous and smashing, so absolutely no need for any extra bodywork. Just keep calm and and before you know it you will be the attraction for many gentlemen. Just play your cards right and don't rush anything. You are too young and have many wonderful years ahead of you.

ismet

Turbo



Joined: 24/12/2006
Posts: 474


Message Posted:
30/09/2008 06:49

"thankk you.



i dont like socialising.



my kids are too old to be enjoyed byy their mum



my oldest daughter is a stropy cow and the other is even stroppier :P"



You have to get out and get your groove back, or you will get into a deeper depression, as the saying goes "just get back up on that horse"

Not sure if your comment about the kids was a joke or for real..its really not a nice thing to say about your kids. They must still be teenagers, never to old for some love. Support is a two way street.

Good luck.





turbo

No1Doyen


Joined: 04/07/2008
Posts: 2740


Message Posted:
30/09/2008 13:28

Why don't you do some voluntary work. You won't get paid but your not getting anything from your husband anyway! Go on ..do it for yourself.

Lemtich



Joined: 15/02/2007
Posts: 848


Message Posted:
30/09/2008 13:34

Scampy



Strongbow! Thats the answer. Can heartily recommend it!



Then you could change your name to Scrumpy! Lol



Lem

AlsancakJack


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Posts: 685


Message Posted:
30/09/2008 13:47

Lem

the voice of reason.

aj

scampy



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Message Posted:
30/09/2008 20:04

Hi Thanks for all your comments

It was a joke about the kids and my daughter wrote that anyway, we are very close

I have decided I am selling up and moving away from Cyprus, I am going to stay with my Dad in Australia



Anyone who want to buy a brand new Apt at Kavankoy 2 Let me know

scampy



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Posts: 941


Message Posted:
30/09/2008 20:13

Lem



Sorry I don't drink

Lemtich



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Posts: 848


Message Posted:
30/09/2008 20:15

Hi Scamp



Post it on the Kavanlar thread, there may be some takers.



Wish I had a dad in Oz. Its great there.



Good Luck



Lem

scampy



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Message Posted:
30/09/2008 20:23

Hi Lem

Have already posted it there

And my dad lives in Cairnes as well so more warm weather

scampy



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Posts: 941


Message Posted:
30/09/2008 21:03

Hi im Georgina. ( the daughter that wrote the comment about me and my little sister being stropy cows) mum said it out loud so i decided to write it. it was only ajoke =)

the whole turkish men thing, is true. in the most polite way.. most of the men in this country are complete w*nkers. too protective. too much for anyone to put up with. its not nice to have my mum treated like absolute shite. im lad we're moving. Georgina' x

scampy



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Posts: 941


Message Posted:
30/09/2008 21:09

thanks boo

PtePike



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Message Posted:
30/09/2008 21:10

What about disruption to schooling?

scampy



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Posts: 941


Message Posted:
30/09/2008 21:12

I think they will be ok, the school they are at might be good here but the standards in Australia are much higher so I think they will benifit

And their job prospects will be a lot better that here

Lemtich



Joined: 15/02/2007
Posts: 848


Message Posted:
30/09/2008 21:14

Oh, I'm sure a couple of teenage girls will be able to disrupt schools in Cairns, Pike.



Lem

scampy



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Message Posted:
30/09/2008 21:17

I'm sure they will as they are blonde too

scampy



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Message Posted:
30/09/2008 21:17

[georgina here] whats that meanto mean =/

rocky


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Posts: 614


Message Posted:
30/09/2008 21:28

the aussie men cant be any better why not come back to blighty theres plenty of water here but not much else apart from english men. I guess that we are nothing special aprt form me of course.

rocky


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Posts: 614


Message Posted:
30/09/2008 21:28

woops we kant spell iver

scampy



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Message Posted:
30/09/2008 21:32

No offence to the english men but I hate the cold weather, last time I went over was 2 years ago in Nov and I moaned every day cause of the cold and rain

scampy



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Posts: 941


Message Posted:
30/09/2008 21:37

[georgina here] i'd rather move to england than australia. [HINT MUM] :] x

scampy



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Posts: 941


Message Posted:
30/09/2008 21:38

tooooooooooooo cold

No1Doyen


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Message Posted:
01/10/2008 11:17

Given with Tourism, Agriculture and Mining, are the major industry's in Cairns, what type of work will you and your Daughters be looking for?

scampy



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Posts: 941


Message Posted:
01/10/2008 11:21

Well I have done property management here for 6 years and I have worked in bar's and resturants for 25 years in England also I have sectrerial certificates

authentichoccie


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Posts: 111


Message Posted:
01/10/2008 12:07

Sue

You can't leave us!!

You've had ups and downs before, you'll get through it!

There must be a nice non-married guy out there somewhere for you!

I'll have a look around see if I can find one!

Jane xx

scampy



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Posts: 941


Message Posted:
01/10/2008 12:10

No the last one has broke my heart very badly and he is far too close to home for my liking

I have to make the break

I was considering it when I sold the house in Malatya, I should have done then before I got ripped off and he promised everything and delivered nothing only heartache

w26kay



Joined: 14/10/2007
Posts: 455


Message Posted:
01/10/2008 12:23

I can understand your reasoning for leaving, if he lives very close by, and it was a difficult breakdown in the relationship. Australia may give you and the girls more opportunities than TRNC though.

scampy



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Posts: 941


Message Posted:
01/10/2008 12:30

He doesn't live here He built it and is here everyday

rocky


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Posts: 614


Message Posted:
01/10/2008 12:40

I am a little worried sbout your secretarial spelling (message 69)scampi scampee or is it scampy

rocky


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Message Posted:
01/10/2008 12:45

mines not 2 good either should have been about not sbout but Im know a sekretary

scampy



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Message Posted:
01/10/2008 12:49

Rocky

It's scampy after my old doggy

rocky


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Message Posted:
01/10/2008 12:49

is that the turkish old doggy?

scampy



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Posts: 941


Message Posted:
01/10/2008 12:52

Yes but not the man the doggy

Nglbarnes