English girlfriend, north Cypriot boyfriend??

BeirutPecker


Joined: 30/06/2011
Posts: 24

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 01:39

Match made in hevan?? Or match made in hell??

Clarissa2


Joined: 12/06/2009
Posts: 1476

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 01:43

Certainly made in 'hevan'!

BeirutPecker


Joined: 30/06/2011
Posts: 24

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 01:44

Yeah, that's what I think x

CarrieRBag



Joined: 23/12/2008
Posts: 1374

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 09:06

Depends on a lot of things, not just your nationalities but I wish you well.

Fawkes


Joined: 18/07/2011
Posts: 86

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 09:20

meal ticket or recipe for disaster imho.

TRNCVaughan


Joined: 27/04/2008
Posts: 4578

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 09:50

If the girl wants to be "owned", it's an ideal match.

Tenakoutou



Joined: 27/07/2009
Posts: 4110

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 10:12

TRNCVaughan is spot on!



There appear to be no statistics, but these relationships are 'guesstimated' to have a 99.9% failure rate!

Groucho



Joined: 26/04/2008
Posts: 7993

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 10:15

If the girl wants a spoiled brat for a partner let her have one....

erolz


Joined: 17/11/2008
Posts: 3456

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 10:17

It always amazes me how keen some are to publicaly display their own prejudices.

SaraD


Joined: 12/07/2011
Posts: 31

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 10:24

The relationship depends on the two of you, not anyone else's thoughts or opinions.

moonstone


Joined: 27/08/2009
Posts: 158

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 10:28

I have a north Cypriot boyfriend, been with him a few years now and I am not owned! I am free to do what I want. Although I must say not everyone is the same and my boyfriend is one of a kind.

bondyboy


Joined: 15/05/2009
Posts: 67

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 10:32

how come you dont see nc woman with english men

kiwikid


Joined: 18/08/2008
Posts: 496

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 11:23

Some of you amaze me with your commets, I have A TC husband and we have been together for 15 years now, he does not own me! I do my own thing go out with my friends, travel with mates and have a pretty fantastic life with a man who loves me and repects me.

When my husband and I got together we were both living in Turkey I had at least 15 friends who were dating Turkish guys at least 10 went on to marry them, over the years only 2 couples have split and the rest all seem happy. Wonder what the satistics are in the western world, I know it can't be said for my friends in NZ.

As for why you don't see TC women with English men? maybe because they don't want English men. But just to correct that I have at least 3 Tc women friends who are married to English speaking men.

TRNCVaughan


Joined: 27/04/2008
Posts: 4578

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 11:28

There are a very few, but these are mostly London Turkish Cypriots, who are a little more open minded and not ruled by their families to the same extent.

Groucho



Joined: 26/04/2008
Posts: 7993

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 11:31

Angela

Msg 8 was meant as joke...

I do ask myself why the thread was started though... makes you wonder if she has doubts...

kiwikid


Joined: 18/08/2008
Posts: 496

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 11:33

Vaughan My husband has never lived in the Uk he grew up here with very a traditional TC family who have welcomed me in to their family like I was their daughter. The only time he has ever lived out of Cyprus was when we went to stay in NZ for 8 months. I find the London TC men to the worst when it comes to old fashion ways of thinking.

TRNCVaughan


Joined: 27/04/2008
Posts: 4578

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 11:41

kiwikid,



I was referring to LTC women, not men, in msg 14.

I get the impression that respectable TC women are expected to marry and produce grand children with suitable TC men, asap. A family might take a dim view of a daughter going out with a Gavur, who she might be discouraged from considering marrying. TC boys with English girls may just be seen as sowing their wild oats by the same family, knowing that he will eventually marry a nice TC girl.

negativenick


Joined: 10/11/2008
Posts: 6023

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 11:54

Turks / TC's - i'm sure they're all singing from the same hymn sheet........



Have a read of "turkish love rats":



http://www.youchoose.net/campaign/turkish_love_rats

martinD41


Joined: 06/09/2010
Posts: 3001

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 12:03

NN is possibly right,,,the mountain Car Parks show evidence of some indiscretions, especially when visited very early on Sunday mornings..............

Sid447


Joined: 15/05/2009
Posts: 141

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 12:08

Post 9.



"..It always amazes me how keen some are to publicaly display their own prejudices."



Hello erolz,



It's a public forum and this kind of free opinion is quite normal.

Everybody has prejudices or is biased in some way or another, so it can be frustrating taking internet opinions personally.

Different strokes for different folks.



IMO if someone wants to marry another from a substantially different culture and they've considered all the angles, then that's their decision.

If it works good for them, if it doesn't they'll no doubt become part of the biased group!



After all all's said & done; birds of a feather ...etc.

vonny


Joined: 25/06/2009
Posts: 476

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 12:19

I had a turkish cypriot boyfriend once and i married him 32 years ago,he doesnt rule me,neither does his family,we respect each other and he is my best friend.i think it depends on the couple if it works or not.but i will say that a 50-60 yr old british woman going out with a 20 odd year old is asking for trouble and seems to go on more in Turkey

BeirutPecker


Joined: 30/06/2011
Posts: 24

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 12:44

Thanks for all your comments, my boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 2 years, you no what? He is the best thing that's ever happened to me, of course we have our ups and downs but so dose every couple, the cultural differences are good I think, just hope I'm posting in 22 years saying we still together

TRNCVaughan


Joined: 27/04/2008
Posts: 4578

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 12:55

Why would a 50-60 yr old British woman go out with a 20 odd year old Turkish man? Answer - obvious.

Why would a 20 year old Turkish man go out with a 50-60 year old British woman? Answer - Sex, money, passport?

Why would a 20 yr old Cypriot woman go out with a 50-60 year old British man? Answer - it doesn't happen.



Question - Why the difference?

bigOz


Joined: 29/09/2010
Posts: 1244

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 13:26

TRNCVaughan;

20 year old Cypriot women would not go out with a 50-60 year old any nationality! They have a lot of randy, good looking, sun tanned, shapely bodied boys to be content with (and a lot of them do have the pocket money to do what they like) Also, Leaving Cyprus where they can earn more money is not exactly on top of their priority lists - in any case they can travel to UK whenever they like, unlike the main-land Turks who have strict visa restrictions imposed on them...

By the way, are we really talking about "HAVEN" or "heaven" ?

BeirutPecker


Joined: 30/06/2011
Posts: 24

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 13:32

Post 15

I have no doubts I can assure you of that. Its the only thing I have ever been sure of, was just curious of other people's opinions, however, the only opinion that really matters to me is that of my soon to be husband ;)

mikelapta



Joined: 20/11/2008
Posts: 2186

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 13:35

Pandora,my best wishes for the future !!!



Remember,the President has said "no more than 4 children !!"

kiwikid


Joined: 18/08/2008
Posts: 496

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 14:25

NN, of cause the Mags and newspapers are going to pick up on stories about Turkish love rats, who would wants to read a story about happy couples!, sob stories sell mags and newspapers.

Unfortunately you only ever hear of the bad relationships not the the happy ending ones.

TRNCVaughan


Joined: 27/04/2008
Posts: 4578

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 15:04

msg 24,



Wouldn't it be equally true to say that they (the 20 year old Turkish boys who go out with 50-60 year old British women) have a lot of randy, good looking, sun tanned, shapely bodied girls to be content with (and a lot of them do have the pocket money to do what they like).

Obviously not.

TRNCVaughan


Joined: 27/04/2008
Posts: 4578

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 15:11

msg 24,



Wouldn't it be equally true to say that they (the 20 year old Turkish boys who go out with 50-60 year old British women) have a lot of randy, good looking, sun tanned, shapely bodied girls to be content with (and a lot of them do have the pocket money to do what they like).

Obviously not.

MsGarnet


Joined: 04/01/2009
Posts: 989

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 16:52

Post 15



"I have no doubts I can assure you of that. Its the only thing I have ever been sure of, was just curious of other people's opinions, however, the only opinion that really matters to me is that of my soon to be husband ;)"



Exactly - so one wonders why you would bother to start the thread in the first place. The only two people who know what you and he are like, are you and he!!!!!!!! So there isn't a person on this planet who can say if you two are suited or not, any more than if any other couple are suited - provenance - culture, gender, aesthetics et cetera, are meaningless, it is the disposition of the two involved, and if they gel as a couple - no more or less.......

Crumpy



Joined: 05/06/2010
Posts: 419

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 17:30

"A (TC) family might take a dim view of a daughter going out with a Gavur" (msg 17)



I am soon to marry to a TC woman, 5 years younger than me, and I couldn't wish for a more easy-going future father-in-law. It is true that both he and his recently deceased wife have wanted us to marry for the last six months, but I felt no more pressure put on us than, say, a British father would have done. My impression is that in general, the TC's atttude to such things is very similar to that of the GCs.



On the subject of being "owned" (msg 6), I would say that Turkish (as opposed to TC) men do tend to be slightly more "over-protective" of their partners. Many's the time during my 15 years in Istanbul, I saw men escorting their partners to toilets and waiting for them outside the door ! Maybe though Turkish men are just more gentlemanly than us ...

Hoylemiller



Joined: 03/09/2010
Posts: 240

Message Posted:
22/07/2011 19:28

Pandora. Its your life and its got stuff all to do with anyone else. All the best.

chacha007


Joined: 28/10/2010
Posts: 199

Message Posted:
23/07/2011 16:35

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TRNCVaughan


Joined: 27/04/2008
Posts: 4578

Message Posted:
25/07/2011 10:35

sorry for the multiple posts - 28,29 & 30.

None of them answered, though.

Tenakoutou



Joined: 27/07/2009
Posts: 4110

Message Posted:
25/07/2011 10:55

Has anyone ever heard of a 'Turkish Shotgun Wedding'?



............... I thought not!

moonstone


Joined: 27/08/2009
Posts: 158

Message Posted:
25/07/2011 15:53

I've heard of weddings where they fire guns up in the air.

Visitor


Joined: 19/08/2010
Posts: 492

Message Posted:
25/07/2011 17:25

Goodluck. Ignore all these bigotted old farts!

flamefabs


Joined: 09/07/2011
Posts: 193

Message Posted:
25/07/2011 17:26

hey, who you calling old ?

Trigga


Joined: 30/08/2011
Posts: 10

Message Posted:
31/08/2011 04:35

Anyone who could help out boredom here..its bayram and nothing to do because i'm black..too bad

Hippo


Joined: 02/02/2007
Posts: 2070

Message Posted:
31/08/2011 05:30

As OZ said



'in any case they can travel to UK whenever they like'



They dont need a visa, they can work, they can buy a house, they dont need a blood test. they dont need permision to purchase etc etc



Just like we can here.................

EamonnMc


Joined: 18/06/2010
Posts: 1019

Message Posted:
01/09/2011 17:30

vaughan,



Sounds like you are interested in extending your harem ! You're obviously insatiable !

TRNCVaughan


Joined: 27/04/2008
Posts: 4578

Message Posted:
02/09/2011 09:09

Can never have too much of a good thing.