kids arse smacked in public by stranger!!!

bigjuss


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Message Posted:
04/10/2011 23:39

i stopped at a local roadside fruit and veg stall (ya beles)on my way home and a young lad,bout 10 or 12 was giving his mum n dad some lip and badly misbehaving.he ran away from the stall and into he busy main road.an old turkish man grabbed him by the earhole,pulled him from the roadside ,smacked his arse and gave him a proper face to face telling off while still twisting his earhole....the kid s...tarted crying and the mum and dad stood by and watched on until the bloke had finished his bollocking,both parents shook the old mans hand and thanked him gratefully,the kid,without being prompted apologised to his parents and then said sorry 3 or 4 times to the old man,he then carried all the old boys bags and loaded up the boot of his car.....and the dad kindly offered the old man a cigarette.................

now thats what i like about living in a country where you are bought up to show respect for your elders..........not just the kid,but the parents too

0maintenance


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Message Posted:
04/10/2011 23:44

They should not smoke in front of kids ,showing them bad habits !;)

No1Doyen


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Message Posted:
04/10/2011 23:45

Unfortunately there are very few places left in the world where this would happen.



Great post, thanks for sharing bigjuss.

Stonehousepub


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Message Posted:
04/10/2011 23:58

msg 1





Its not the country it is the culture.



In general most Cypriots are brought up to respect the older generation..

bigjuss


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Message Posted:
05/10/2011 00:12

and thats why i love the trnc,the culture,society and level of respect that makes it a pleasure to live here.



if that would have happened in england,the kid would have told the old man to fu*k off,the dad would have given the old boy a good hiding,a police comunity support officer would have called the police,the old man would have been arrested for assaulting a minor and the dad charged with actual or grevious bodily harm.

both would have spent the night in a police cell and in the morning,both parties would have been asked if they would like to drop the charges and accept an official police caution and a policeman would spend 5 hours the next day filling out paperwork ,while the kid had a good laugh about it with his mates at school the next day.......



long live the trnc!!!

HotHippo


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Message Posted:
05/10/2011 00:18

Great story, but why can't they get the rest of the basics right?

HotHippo


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Message Posted:
05/10/2011 00:22

Having said that, why can't the UK get any of the basics right, at least nowadays?

phylray



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Message Posted:
05/10/2011 01:12

It used to be more like that in U.k many years ago. Lovely story, deserves wider coverage.

bigjuss


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Message Posted:
05/10/2011 01:22

thanks phylray,

just an observation i saw today.being from the society i am from,it stuck out like a sore thumb and gave me something to think about during my ride home....to all around me,(cypriots)it was nothing out of the ordinary,just another everyday occourance.......that says it all eh?

moxie


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Message Posted:
05/10/2011 02:16

mum and dad stood by ??? they should have been the ones to tell him off, i know what you are saying...but this is why kids in UK have no respect because the parents have no skills ...just my opinion



it was also a kindly gesture to grab the private parts of young boys in Turkey......by older men .... it was in no was pervy, but seen as a familiar gesture...now try that in the UK

Tenakoutou



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Message Posted:
05/10/2011 07:44

Congratulations to the public spirited 'spanker stranger'!



Some people may remember the 'phalanga' scene in the film 'Midnight Express' - that was gruesome!

Groucho



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Message Posted:
05/10/2011 08:26

Compare and contrast.... the scene, a beach in France. A whole family on the beach for a Sunday picnic with mongrel dog in tow.

Not long before the dog starts doing the rounds of all the other families on the beach trying to drag-off their food. Annoyed father goes grabs the dog and pulls it back to their group with a slap that makes it yelp... son remonstrates with father who promptly give him a belt too...son screams for ages. Wife then takes husband to task over violence at which point he gives her a belt for good measure...

At this point the beach started to clear as this had spoiled everybody's enjoyment.

If it wasn't true, it'd be comical.

Ralph96



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Message Posted:
05/10/2011 08:28

I remember my English teacher she would be very angry and constantly hit me with a wooden rule....These days you would pay good money for that...

nicola


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Message Posted:
05/10/2011 08:28

All kids should be smacked when naughty, teach them manners and principles, the kids of today should be put in Barnardo's till they can work NOT JOKING

Ralph96



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Message Posted:
05/10/2011 08:30

So should you for slagging that cafe off.

nicola


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Message Posted:
05/10/2011 08:34

What cafe, I haven't slagged a cafe off ever.

pammick


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Message Posted:
05/10/2011 08:46

as an ex-teacher in a secondary school in the UK, who has been on the receiving end of abuse from the future generation growing up there, I really enjoyed reading this. I can remember as a kid being terrified when a policeman caught me playing in a woodyard, where I should not have been. He dragged me out by the arm and wrote my name in in his notebook, threatening to inform my parents if he every caught me there again. I was nearly wetting myself and I can tell you this -I never did go back to play in what was actually a very dangerous place for a kid to be. It is all about respect and - yes a little bit of fear. The kids today in the UK have no fear of any authority, especially of teachers, which is why society is disintigrating. I do have fear, for my grandchildren who still live in the UK and like bigjuss I love living here because respect and family values are still important. God forbid that we go back to the days when it was ok to beat kids, but chastisement never hurt anyone.

nicola


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Message Posted:
05/10/2011 09:07

pammick, the kids of today have no respect for the law or discipline and need sorting.

Bikerboy



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Message Posted:
05/10/2011 13:03

Hi Nicola, you posted on the Cupcakes Ozankoy thread, dont you remember? well said Ralph96

YFred


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Message Posted:
05/10/2011 13:14

If you have to smack your children to take control - you did not raise them correctly in the first place. I have 4 children and have never smacked any of them at any age. Even at the age of 25 my advice is asked. What is it the links violence with respect. It must be a roman thing, where they slaughtered the barbarians to civilise them. And we are in 2011 right? Or am I mistaken?

MsGarnet


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Message Posted:
05/10/2011 13:20

When there is no respect for Police or the Law, you don't fear them - some Police act in an aggressive cocky oftentimes abusive physically and verbally, manner - forgetting - mobiles can record anything these days, and the Law in England is a joke - you can literally get away with murder. I was never hit by my parents, nor at my school (if any teacher had raised a hand to a child, the teacher was dismissed immediately) and I never raised my hand to my child - physical attack is an inarticulate response to a situation, where removal, or cancellation of a treat et cetera - works just as well. As to children leaving school at 11 barely able to read or right - what does that tell us about the calibre of teachers these days? To get respect, one has to give it...

vonny


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Message Posted:
05/10/2011 13:34

lovely to hear bigjuss,yfred,i smacked my kids when they were naughty up till the age of around 7-8 after that if they played up they were threatened with a smack which usually worked,if we took them out they were well behaved and never through tantrums,i also was a child minder for over 25yrs and had over 30 kids in total,i never lifted a finger to any of them but threatened to tell their parents,and i will say that the kids who did get smacked by their parents were a hell of a lot more behaved than the ones that didnt.

nicola


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Message Posted:
05/10/2011 13:56

bikerboy, what are you talking about, get a grip fgs and add a little water to it.

YFred


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Message Posted:
05/10/2011 14:12

MrsG, don't be silly. When a child misbehaves and gets told off and the next day a parent turns up with a hammer to sort the teacher out, who's fault is it again?

Certainly not all teachers are the same. Respect starts from home. By the age of 7 the charcter of a child is formed. Like it ot lump it child development is a triangle of Parents Teachers and Children. All have to work at it.

nicola


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Message Posted:
05/10/2011 14:14

Children should be seen and not heard, not seen and bloody heard.

Ralph96



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Message Posted:
05/10/2011 14:19

So should you.

Ralph96



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Message Posted:
05/10/2011 14:20

Well spotted Bikerboy.

bigjuss


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Message Posted:
05/10/2011 22:52

WELL SAID VONNY!

flowerfairy


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Message Posted:
06/10/2011 00:19

Oooh this is a subject for another threa I think.

yfred, you think you are so clever for not smacking your four children. I/we have one....

the day she told us to F''''''k off out of her room, deemed the day she had a bloody hiding. I hasten to add, we do not use that language, even if we did, that was such a lack of respect, how did you deal with that?

you must have come across it, or a similar situation, after four children?

bigOz


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Message Posted:
06/10/2011 00:46

My apologies everyone but I am actually reading hypocrisy at its peak!

So how many of you would allow a teacher smack your child, if he was to tell the teacher to "f**k off as well as physically challenge him or even worse?

suel5


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Message Posted:
06/10/2011 00:47

Hitting children or any other person is assault and wrong. I would not appreciate an old man hitting my child but then again I would not let a tantrum get to the stage a stranger had to intervene.

Do love being here and appreciate family values but there are other ways to discipline children.

bigOz


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Message Posted:
06/10/2011 01:00

Suel5;

Not all children are ready for "other ways". Especially when more than half the marriages end up in divorce, and single parent mothers are almost as many as the happily married ones in a country (and many of those single parent mothers are not even old enough to look after themselves)!

No wander (after the recent riots) everyone have been asking each other where they went wrong! The disrespect, bad behavior, and violence & crime in UK must be one of the highest in Europe - so it is not really working is it? I can probably find a direct mathematical relationship between the "political correctness gone mad" and the above. One seems to increase as the other one does...

Clock


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Message Posted:
06/10/2011 08:07

Whack the little buggers

misunderstood


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Message Posted:
06/10/2011 08:15

Wish that same old man would grab Akan Kursat by the ear and smack his arse. Probably too late, it should have happened years ago then perhaps he would respect the old too.

Troodo


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Message Posted:
06/10/2011 08:30

This used to happen in the south, long gone now sad to say.

Tango1


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Message Posted:
06/10/2011 10:20

I wonderful story and hopefully the child will have learned a lesson for life, but why are children called Kids?

rigsby


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Message Posted:
06/10/2011 10:45

Spare the rod,spoil the child.

Ozangirl


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Message Posted:
06/10/2011 11:08

Good job, where can I find this stranger? I'll send my brats along to him!!

gizzie


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Message Posted:
06/10/2011 11:08

Well done that person. too many unruly children lacking parental control.

ilovecyprus


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Message Posted:
06/10/2011 11:59

I suspect this elderly man does not go around smacking children just for the fun of it. The kid ran out in to a busy street and could have been killed. Kids respond to pain and pleasure, adults do too, but most adults can mediate their reaction to a stimulus. Its all to do with the pre frontal cortex which is undeveloped in kids.



The pain and shock of a smack will have created a strong stimulus in the childs neurology thus ensuring he does not jump in to the road again. Lets face it, the pain from a smack is going to be much less severe than if he was hit head on by a truck. Well done to that elderly gentleman for potentially saving that childs life in the future. Its a great story and the TRNC culture has not lost this vital wisdom. The liberal elite in the UK could learn a lot.



It should also be remembered that too much smacking can lead the child to experience PTSD. This is bad news. Both Stalin and Hitler were repeatedly beaten and look at how they turned out.

nicola


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Message Posted:
06/10/2011 14:44

Ralph, you are quite a sad individual, probably why you cover your face, are you spotty with bad breath, yea thought so.

bigjuss


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Message Posted:
06/10/2011 19:24

wow,i think my story has created a bit of a stir......

Ralph96



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Message Posted:
07/10/2011 06:19

Message 41, Ive got feelings you know...