Bringing a turkish man to Northern Ireland

jk888


Joined: 08/09/2009
Posts: 1

Message Posted:
08/09/2009 22:32

ok guys i need help cus my head about to explode thinking about this, rite ive been going out to the same place in turkey for 3 years now, i met a guy there in my first year got on so so well wif him, he wasnt the usual turk who was all over ya and being flirty he was genuinely interested in my life, so ended up going out to turkey 3 more times that year to see him, talked to him everyday on msn and always was calling, last year i went out for two months and he let me stay in his appartment i loved it-amazing!, again chatted everyday on msn, this year i went out again for 1 month and stayed at his appartment again... he was fantastic to me couldnt do enuf for me, im only home 3 weeks ago and i miss him like crazy, i suggested to come over to ireland to stay with me for a while but i just cant help but wander when i read all the stories in mags about turks all the same but at the same time it was my idea to bring him over and reli i think he is different someone help me!!!! aaggghh

negativenick


Joined: 10/11/2008
Posts: 6023

Message Posted:
08/09/2009 22:56

probably best you contact the imigration department to get a definitive answer....

littlejohn


Joined: 09/03/2009
Posts: 316

Message Posted:
08/09/2009 23:07

Leave well alone.

nurseawful



Joined: 06/02/2009
Posts: 5934

Message Posted:
08/09/2009 23:31

Joy,

You are still very young the world is your oyster. Surely you can find a nice man in NI same religion, culture etc. easy to fall in love over the internet and on holiday but think long and hard before making a decision on this. Hope I am wrong but I do think that he probably spins the same line with all the girls that go there on holiday. The other thing is I hope you used a condom as pregnancy is not the worst thing that could happen to you lots of nasty STD's about these days!!!! (you did stay at his apartment and i apologise if I have jumped the gun)

chris

paddywack


Joined: 04/05/2009
Posts: 959

Message Posted:
08/09/2009 23:46

Msg 1

Looks like a wind up . Very poor spelling and grammer for a classroom assistant, would not advise bringing a Turk to Ireland.

zerochlor


Joined: 03/04/2009
Posts: 4024

Message Posted:
08/09/2009 23:50

Message 1



Hi miss valentine!



what a super phizz take



i really hope youll invite all from cyp44 to your wedding shirley?

Tiggy


Joined: 25/07/2007
Posts: 1994

Message Posted:
08/09/2009 23:54

Give it a go Joy....if it does not work out then bonio can take over. They could open up a "Orange Kebab Shop" on the falls Road......bladdy kebabs!!

fire starter


Joined: 19/06/2008
Posts: 3401

Message Posted:
09/09/2009 08:48

if he is turkish and hasn't introduced you to his family, please don't take him seriously.

yorgozlu



Joined: 16/06/2009
Posts: 4437

Message Posted:
09/09/2009 09:41

msg 6;

Dont be a plonker all your life bonio!!

mmmmmm



Joined: 19/12/2008
Posts: 8398

Message Posted:
09/09/2009 13:14

Hey Bonio



Our George does pools too and having been called THICK by him, *I* referred to him as a "mere Pool cleaner"...



He has many friends... ))

daisy dukes


Joined: 06/09/2008
Posts: 3815

Message Posted:
09/09/2009 13:31

OK..jk....



It is very easy to fall in love with someone on holiday, hell, i imagine it's happened to most of us at some time...but the long haul is very different. The fact that he's Turkish could well make it even harder, as it's no picnic, even with someone from your own country. I would suggest you test the waters by asking to meet his family and having a sit down with them to talk about your plans. Maybe he could come to see you on a holiday basis first. If meeting the family is not an option...steer well clear...if you do meet them...well, only you will know what to do next.

These kind of relationships can be very difficult, they are open to ridicule by unsympathetic people and if they don't work, a lot of guilt can set in.

I would suggest you think long and hard about doing this. Best of luck with your decision...i'm sure you will make the right one.



DD

titledeed


Joined: 26/07/2009
Posts: 13

Message Posted:
09/09/2009 14:00

Wind up,

Yes marry him,also think about taking your 80 year old gran out there,she should find someone in his twentys,tell her to delay marriage until the recession is over,whats the point of him getting the right to reside in the UK and the poor thing has to live on the dole,then again,i suppose it will give him chance to spend your savings and do your house up that is now half his.

Have a long and happy marriage

Kind Regards

Serkan


Joined: 12/05/2009
Posts: 75

Message Posted:
09/09/2009 16:29

I might me wrong but once he gets his citizenship you might be history.there are few differences between main land and cypriot men. I would be cautious if I were you but decision is yours.

zerochlor


Joined: 03/04/2009
Posts: 4024

Message Posted:
09/09/2009 16:41

would you take Tea to china?

minertor



Joined: 14/02/2009
Posts: 1238

Message Posted:
09/09/2009 16:49

Hi Nurse, msg 5, mentioning culture and religion in NI is never a good idea.

If it's not a wind up I'm sure he'll be made welcome, like only the Irish can. Before I bought here I spent a lot of time with friends in NI and family in Eire. My 16 year old grand-daughter turned down a visit to Cyprus this year, but managed to wring a promise from me to take her to see Uncle Gerry in Ballaghadereen next Summer. When people ask me about Cyprus, I tell them it's just like Ireland, with sun. North or South, there's not a lot of difference, not like here.

cypwine


Joined: 09/05/2009
Posts: 177

Message Posted:
09/09/2009 17:01

jk888



Do what your head tells you to do not your heart..... it amazes me though that some people on here are telling you to be cautious about taking a turk to Ireland.... they seem to have no problem living and trusting them here in Cyprus!!!

Happy Hussar


Joined: 01/10/2008
Posts: 318

Message Posted:
09/09/2009 17:02

If he ever makes it to 'Norn Irn' I'm sure he will be asked at some stage 'are you a Catholic Turk or a Prodestant Turk'.

Tony

NatAless



Joined: 31/03/2009
Posts: 789

Message Posted:
09/09/2009 17:05

jk88 feel free to email me, I am engaged to a mainland Turk & have been in your situation not long ago, we live in North Cyprus together and neither of us want to live in London but we have just been through the whole Visa thing and should be going there on holiday and I have met his family...don't listen to the negatives, I would rather live here or infact Turkey & here's the thing..you can't help who you fall in love with!

Natx

NatAless



Joined: 31/03/2009
Posts: 789

Message Posted:
09/09/2009 17:07

PS My family have all met him and have our blessing so what matters mostly is you, your family and not strangers'/ignorant opinions on a forum!

dizzycows


Joined: 12/05/2009
Posts: 2736

Message Posted:
09/09/2009 17:17

jk888, why dont you do as DD says and just holiday together for a while. You will find the culture difference so great if you decide to step into the world of a Turkish man. For instance I have a young hairdresser, she fell madly in love with a Mainland Turkish boy, fine for a few years untill she thought wedding bells as pregnant! All hell let loose re the family of the boy, he was made to give her up, asked when the baby was born to give full rights to the boy as in their culture she was seen as a white hore!! She lost the baby through stress!! Just a warning, dont jump to fast. He might be 'the one' but do look at how his family see it......

minertor



Joined: 14/02/2009
Posts: 1238

Message Posted:
09/09/2009 17:26

Hiya Nat, how'd he like the chicken

dizzycows


Joined: 12/05/2009
Posts: 2736

Message Posted:
09/09/2009 17:40

minertor you will get told of for going off thread!!!! you know they are lurking out there, ready to pounce on us mere mortals

titledeed


Joined: 26/07/2009
Posts: 13

Message Posted:
09/09/2009 18:10

Nat Aless,

Its very early days for you,do you really think the family are going to tell you to clear off,most are at their best when it comes to meeting the family,and you can do something about falling in love,but i wish you both well

NatAless



Joined: 31/03/2009
Posts: 789

Message Posted:
09/09/2009 18:52

This is not my thread, however, the only way to respond to the last msg is that I didn't meet his parents once, I met the whole family and lived round the corner from them for over 3 months seeing them every day and most evenings, they are a very modern, non religious/fanatical family that accept me as the individual who is with their son and we are mutually very fond of eachother...yes there are negative stories but there are also the same stories and problems with same cultural/nationality couples...if you knew us or knew the full story you would understand and there is nothing to do when you fall in love & I wouldn't accept anything else!

Natx

yorgozlu



Joined: 16/06/2009
Posts: 4437

Message Posted:
09/09/2009 19:45

msg12;

Iam writing....?





Dont be a plonker all your life.



When are you going to start listening?

dizzycows


Joined: 12/05/2009
Posts: 2736

Message Posted:
09/09/2009 21:23

NatAless, very pleased that you have found your true love, and I sincerely mean that, but please dont think the folks on here are being neg just to be neg. Some of us have seen or been involved with someone that have not always gone as your relationship has. A fact that some of us are quite a bit older, seen more, and only warn of the possibilities that jk888 might like to think about, she did ask for opinions. Falling in love sometimes is just one way, and nobody can tell her what she should do, only she will know. lol

Tiggy


Joined: 25/07/2007
Posts: 1994

Message Posted:
09/09/2009 21:52

Salahi, he only listens to his own propoganda.....the real issues!



Ballaghadereen eh Tony......driven through on the N5 many a time. My Uncle used to send milk to the creamery there.

Coachie



Joined: 29/07/2008
Posts: 2135

Message Posted:
09/09/2009 21:58

Jk888..you pays your money,you takes your chances,you makes your bed you gotta sleep in it,and soforth...

eager


Joined: 23/02/2007
Posts: 1272

Message Posted:
09/09/2009 22:03

How come No 1 Doyen Has'nt closed this thread down, Just another wind up/joke, Thought he would be right in with one of his "serves no purpose" observations.

Pogle


Joined: 28/08/2008
Posts: 1536

Message Posted:
10/09/2009 02:37

Serkan Message 16



What a racist comment. I have been married for 12 years to a University educated, hardworking " Turkish Mainlander", and yes we did meet on a beach in Bodrum. I have never seen such blatant racism as I have here against the Turkish people by the Cypriots, it makes me sick. Perhaps you can elaborate on the differences between Turkish and Cypriot men, I think I am missing something.....................

CyprusChill


Joined: 08/05/2009
Posts: 666

Message Posted:
10/09/2009 03:01

Joy, ask mammy and daddy.

yorgozlu



Joined: 16/06/2009
Posts: 4437

Message Posted:
10/09/2009 20:54

Pogle.,

msg34;

Take no notice,we are not all same.